B/f John is Best Man and will be there to hand over the ring but then he's rushing off to play rugby and says he'll be back in time in the evening for the speeches. The groom says okay but the bride is upset and like me, says he should stay at the wedding.
2006-10-05 02:45:31 · 30 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think he should stay too,can play rugby anytime.
2006-10-05 02:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If John is going to be the best man, then he needs to "be" the best man and be there for the entire thing. I agree with the bride being upset and I agree with you and her both, he should stay. He will be missing in pictures and any events after the "I Do's". There will be other rugby matches, but hopefully the bride and groom will only be doing this once.
2006-10-05 09:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason I eloped when I married was everyone in the family, including my husband's mother and my own mom, wanted to obsess over every flower, every ribbon, every detail, and control everybody and every thing...and they wanted to be all melodramatic and fall apart over silly stuff.
we got fed up over the drama and ran off and got hitched at the courthouse in front of a judge. Instead of white, I wore a blue cocktail dress and we went out and painted the town red. we blew all the money we would have spent on the wedding on a really wild and fabulous honeymoon without all the crazy relatives.
I still don't understand people that want to get their panties in a wad over wedding stuff. I would let the man's friend be best man dressed in his rugby uniform. BUt I'm the type that would think that would be a scream
All that matters is people are in love and are celebrating their union and commitment, and unlike me, they are actually being kind enough to share it with you, the rugby guy, and other people they love. Don't make a bunch of drama complaining about stuff or they might change their minds. Let the groom have his buddy there if he wants him to be, even if its only for 5 minutes.
2006-10-05 10:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's shocking and his friend should get someone else.
Thinking about it, so should you!
There will only ever be this one opportunity to be there at this wedding and he will miss it because of playing a game of Rugby?
A game that will happen maybe 40 times a year!
Being a best man is a great honour and it shows where such important things are when it comes to his priorities in life.
Are you sure you want to be with a man who thinks so little of other people on probably the most important day of their lives?
Dump him and find yourself a genuine and caring guy who has respect for you and other people.
2006-10-05 09:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He absolutely should be there for the wedding! Not even an option. A best man or groomsman should be there for the groom from the beginning of the wedding to the end. I thinik it's extremely rude for someone to put rugby first over your friend's wedding (in which you are the best man!)
2006-10-05 09:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is totally shocking!!!!!
It is a great Honour to be given the Role of Best Man for Somebody!
Your Boyfriend John shoudl check out Confetti . com and research just what the Role of being a Best Man involves, it's not just about being there to give the vicar the ring and then do a speech.
You and the bride have everyright to be upset. Get him Told, if he's not prepared to the job properly he should be doing it at all!
2006-10-06 06:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Emma S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just straight up rude. If he's going to do that then he obviously doesn't give two sh**'s about the wedding in the first place and shouldn't even be in it let alone be the best man. He's going to look like a complete idiot. If I was that guys fiance I would tell this John character he's out and that's the final word on the issue.
2006-10-05 10:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poppy - he sounds like a ****. The job of a best man doesnt finish when the rings are handed over, and doesnt restart when the speech is to be made.
There is a lot to do between the two events - photos, making sure the families are happy, helping people sign the guest book......and going to play rugby is so insensitive.
If he is even thinking about doing that, he deserves a swift kick in the 'nads, and a large dose of reality.
I refer you to my original point. He sounds like a complete and total ****. What are you doing with him???
2006-10-05 10:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by silversilver3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Best Man should stay at the wedding if he agreed to be the best man. If he couldnt do it he should have said so. How imprtant is a rugby game anyway? How would he feel if HIS best man did that to him! Rude rude rude! I would tell my fianceget another best man before the day.
2006-10-06 06:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should stay. I was in a wedding with my, now ex boyfriend, and he left the wedding to go to a business meeting and was gone the rest of the night. It wasn't cool at all, see if the groom can make him stay there for that one special day.
2006-10-05 09:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at the wedding boyf! To rush off to play rugby seems very rude.
2006-10-05 09:51:03 · answer #11 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋