had a "talk" with my man last night and told him that i was feeling vulnerable since i told him 2 weeks ago that i loved him and i didnt hear it back from him. well, i ended up asking him straight up "do you love me?" and he paused for a second and said that he didnt know how to answer that question.
i guess that means no he does not love me? or did i just put him on the spot?
2006-10-05 02:45:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are absolutely right.......................
2006-10-05 02:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! You said the L word before he did. Actually, it would have been just as awkward if he had said it to you and you did not reciprocate the sentiment.
But on the bright side, I wouldn't give up hope if I were you.
Not just yet, anyway.
Two people may be on the same road towards LOVE, but just don't reach the destination at the same exact moment.
You didn't say how long you've been in this relationship. But this thing called love is a scary, scary thing for some guys.
And one more thing, you probably most likely, caught him off-guard and even if he is feeling the same way about you, he may be afraid to admit it right now.
The best thing to do would be to NEVER mention it again.
Just go on being your same wonderful self and someday you may hear those sweet words said back to you. But at some reasonable point, there needs to be a showdown (ultimatum given) because you don't want to spend yrs + yrs in limbo, right?
2006-10-05 03:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Take a wild guess" is a phrase used when saying that someone should hazard or chance an assumption; basically, its a more colourful way of literally meaning 'take a guess'. In this case, the character is being sarcastic at the man's stupidity of asking whether he wants a smoking or non-smoking seat when he is clearly a smoker. Hope that helps!
2016-03-27 05:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes me wonder about how long you have been together.
Maybe he is not ready to say it, if you haven't been together long then maybe he is thinking you move to fast.
I dated a guy once that took 2 years to finally be able to comfortable say I love you and it was because he came from a family that just didn't say that. So saying I love you was alien to him and he didn't feel the need to say it, he said you can tell how a person feel about you with their actions. After dating him awhile, his mom called and when they were about to hang up I told him to tell her he loved her and he did and she became quiet over the phone and when he got off the phone he was upset with me for causing them an awkward moment. So talk to him about it, it might be because of his up bringing
Then again maybe this guy just isn't into you like that.
Maybe he thinks things are good where they are and he's not ready to take a step in the committment direction. (Committment Problems?)
2006-10-05 02:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with him? Maybe those three words just shouldn't be said right now. He's uncomfy to answer that right now, so stop pushing it. He'll tell you when he's ready. I waited on my man to say it first. We were about to fall asleep and he put his arm around me and told me out of the blue. Trust me. It feels so good to hear it when it's not forced. Don't say it again okay? Wait on him to tell you.
2006-10-05 02:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very strong word. It's not something that you push for. Love takes a lot of time. It doesn't happen over night.
Love is patient,
love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
2006-10-05 02:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men hate that question. I don't know why. They think if they didn't love us then they wouldn't be with us. Well sometimes we need reassurance. Either he doesn't know or he is buying time. How long have you two been together? I would consider not opening your heart to much to this person. It seems to me that your letting your heart go to a person that doesn't want it. Good luck!
2006-10-05 02:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't know how to answer, then he probably doesn't love you. That, or he has some serious commitment issues. Either way - not a good situation. I'm sorry.
When you love someone you want to shout it.
2006-10-05 02:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could mean no even though you kind of did put him on the spot he should have been able to give you an answer.
2006-10-05 03:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And didn't know how to answer that question? That answer would have been enough for me. You should never have to "wait" for someone to love you. Throw this one back in the lake and catch another.
2006-10-05 02:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
doesn't mean he don't love you just means he ain't ready to say or admit it. chicks always falling in love. that why there are so many of the crying on here. PS my wife love me after the 2ND week took me 2yrs to figure that i really was in love.
2006-10-05 02:51:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋