I just purchased this home not too long ago and this neighbor complained to me about noise coming from my home at night, so I told her I would work on it and now I just close my windows and she says that has helped. But NOW she's saying that at night time could we park our car in the back by the garage instead of by our door (which is more convenient for us) because she can hear doors slamming and it wakes her up. I think that she is being very unreasonable because we don't SLAM the doors we close them regulary just like anyone else. She has approached my mom one morning about this saying "I have told you about the slamming doors before you are disturbing the whole neighborhood if this keeps up it is going to be trouble" she yelled all this through her window. Should I agree to just park in the back by the garage and let her have her way? When the winter time comes it's gonna be headache having to park back there especially with my young children.
2006-10-05 02:08:54 · 33 answers · asked by strawberry 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just to add some more info guys: This lady lives alone with her pets and she looks to maybe be about 35-40yrs. of age so she's not an old lady then I would understand. My husband gets off from work at 12:00 -1:00 in the morning and we go to work sometimes at 6:00 a.m. And our houses are not that close we have a big driveway but her room window is upstairs near the driveway but it's not like her bedroom window is downstairs RIGHT NEXT to the driveway.
2006-10-05 02:25:46 · update #1
I would very politely tell your neighber that she is not the centre of the universe and that you have some rights in this world to.If that fails tell her she makes to much noise when she yells out
2006-10-05 02:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by bob n 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you arent living in a structured community, then I would tell your neighbor that you have tried to comply with EVERYTHING she has asked, and to no avail the complaints still come from her. I would tell her that you have the mortgage to the house and the payments, not her, and since she isnt your landlord, then she will just have to deal with what ever her new neighbors do with there house. You arent by any means disturbing the peace so she cant call the cops for that or excessive noise. Sure she could call the cops and after a few times of them showing up and nothing happening, she will 1) realize they arent going to do anything, 2) see they will probably talk to her about the calls, and 3) start to have an even worse relationship with her neighbor (let the feuding' begin!). If she doesnt like what you do with you house, then tell her to move. This is a free country. This is your house and you have tried to be an accommodating neighbor to maintain a good relationship, but it looks like she is keeping that from happening, and you might want to also tell her that too.
Now, If you live in a structured community that has rules against certain thing like this, then this could be a problem. My mother lives in a structured community and though the rules are made to keep everyone happy and the community nice, I still believe it is junk. I mean she has to get special permission from the community to park an extra car in her driveway. And I kid you not, if her grass grows longer then 1/2 inch she can be written up too. I mean she bought the house, bought the land, it is all hers. It just so happens she has to abide by these rules or she can be fined, and if she doesnt pay they can put a lean against her house. Now, if this is the case in which you live in then, yes this woman would make it bad for you.
Your neighbors can be your best asset or your worst enemy, sounds like she is going for the latter.
2006-10-05 02:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-04 07:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by forester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. She's being a cantankerous old bat who's trying to see how far she can push you into submission. The more you give in to her,the more she'll want. Ask around the neighbourhood if you're disturbing them. You put yourself and your kids first. I know what bad neighbours are like and believe me,you're a saint compared to them. If she continues with her unreasonable requests, tell her you're going to get a restraining order out because she's harrassing you. Stand up to her,this is the only way. Good luck
2006-10-05 02:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Your neighbor has issues that have nothing to do with you. She may have trouble sleeping or some other problem you can do nothing about. You can't change your life to suit her, and if you are convinced you are not being really noisy, there isn't much you can do.
You might want to try having an honest conversation about it, extend a hand to her, invite her in for a cup of coffee, try to find out what is really going on. If she thinks you are on her side she may be more tolerant and less angry. It is true you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. On the other hand she may be unapproachable, in which case you can tiptoe around, closing your car door as if you are a thief in the night, wade through snow, an whisper all the time. I would move, or live with her occasional outbursts.
2006-10-05 02:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by David S 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No. Not at all.
Park where it is convenient for YOU to park, it is your house. It is unreasonable for her to assume you can't even SHUT your car door... How lightly does this woman sleep, and I doubt you're coming home t unreasonable hours every night, like 11 or midnight!
If worst comes to worst, she will have NO case with the police if she gets them involved. They will only investigate if there's more than one complaint from neighbours, and only for loud music, lewd behaviour, etc... NOT closing doors...
Sounds like she's just one of those bit ches that has to be a pain 24/7
2006-10-05 02:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't get pushed around by this nitwit, just live your life the way you have been. you are obviously a polite and mannered person, the other one is just a fussy spoiled you know what. you are living your life to be quiet within reason, you can't make things perfect for that person. I have heard ppl complain about noise like loud music and partying but NEVER car doors slamming, that's a new one. tell her that she's being unreasonable
2006-10-05 02:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It does depend on what time of the night it is. However I have a neighbor like that and its just that they like to complain. It gives them something to do.. My neighbor went to the extent of calling the police when I had a small get together... It really ticked him off when the officers that came stayed to eat LOL - he hasnt complained or talked to us since... Hope your situation works out as well as mine did.....
As far as the kids and the winter, you are a mom, you do what is best for your children.. Thats what being a mom is all about...
YOU GO GIRL
2006-10-05 02:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take up midnight carpentry. In a few weeks she'll be praying for you to just be "slamming" doors at night.
In response to this: "I have told you about the slamming doors before you are disturbing the whole neighborhood if this keeps up it is going to be trouble"
I'd say, "Trouble? What you think you gonna do?" It's best if you say this with a crazy look in your eye, while you're going for the chainsaw.
2006-10-05 05:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you politely ask her to rearrange her bedroom so the noise doesn't bother her. We had trouble for years with a neighbor who came in around 3am and woke us up on the weekend! It wasn't the door slamming, it was the exhaust needed replaced. Ask her to be open minded and help to find a solution that all can live with...Putting magnetic storm windows on might help.
2006-10-05 03:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt do it because she'll keep finding things to Piss and moan about. Just say sorry but car doors make a noise when they close and you will just have to live with it.
Serioulsy people like this try to make other peoples lives misery by complaiing all the time. As long as you are civil then she cant do anything, its your garage and space that you park in so tell her to close her windows if she doesnt like the noise
2006-10-05 02:13:33 · answer #11 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋