So i've been talking to this dude for about two months and everything was going fine until he started acting funny. I don't know how to explain his funnyness, but I knew something wasn't right and kinda assumed he was talking to someone else. Come to find out that he did have another girlfriend for a year. I gave him the choice of just being friends after the first month and he told me he wanted to be with me. Can any male give me some advice on whether he was lying or telling the truth. I feel bad for the girl cause she loved him and he really hurt her and i think that is soo ****** up. I didn't love him so it was really not a big issue but i did have feelings for him. I do like him but i'v been played before and i know how the game works so he didn't do a good job. But should i just leave him alone and move on or should i wait until i speak to him to see what's up. Why do guys tell you they want to be with you and say all this sweet ****, but then go out and play you.Tell the truth
2006-10-05 01:51:30 · 15 answers · asked by *WaTeR* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been the "girl he's been with for a year" so I know how she feels. It is a male thing. Not all men, but a lot of them feel like if they don't have more than one woman, they are weak. It is a EGO thing. You just need to leave him alone. Cut all ties with him, no phone calls, text messages, visits or emails. Nothing. He wasn't even in your league. He didn't know what he wanted. He is lost, and a liar. He lied to you and the woman he has been with for over a year. you deserve better than what he is willing to give. He didn't have a good job so you know in your heart that he is not the one. Women have something called INTUITION. We all have it and when we get that feeling that something ain't right then it probably ain't. Leave him alone, and find someone who will be all you want and be yours alone.
2006-10-05 02:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy, but gonna give my opinion anyway. Why would you want to be with someone who you don't love & know is a cheater. Do you think he's gonna act right just for you? NOPE!
Once a cheater, always a cheater! He couldn't be faithful to a woman he was dating a year... Also, any man or woman that doesn't leave the relationship before starting a new one, isn't a person I'd want to be with. Do yourself a favor & forget about him & find someone who you will love & who isn't a cheater. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 02:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Littles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say all the sweet things and tell you what you want to hear so they can get in your pants hon.Thats the way it works.If I was you I would definitly ditch him asap.If he is going to play this girl that he was with over a year then he would play you to.Get away now before its too late and you atually start loving him.You will get hurt by this guy.Once a cheat always a cheat.Go find someone that is going to love and respect you for more than just your body to please there sexual needs.You deserve better then that
2006-10-05 01:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems you already know the answer. You said you were not into him all that much. Still, you were willing to break him up with a girl that did love him. I should say shame on you, but, I can't. Because you inadvertently did her a favor. He's a cheater and she is better off without him and so would you be.
2006-10-05 01:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they can! We all have our own way of handling a relationship & in this case this guy is a dog! I think that you should leave him alone.as far as the other girl let her handle it cause I'm sure she knows.
2006-10-05 01:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been in the relationship game long enough to know the answer. Now you just have to have enough balls to carry it through. Good luck
2006-10-05 01:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because while guys are going thru the sexual prime of their life, their focus certainly isn't on being serious... their focus is on playing because their hormones are raging.
Women go thru their primetime, usually during their 30's & 40's.
2006-10-05 02:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is a complete lech, he is probally afraid of the same things you are i.e., getting played.
Go easy until you decide if you really like him or the idea of conquest.
2006-10-05 01:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's leaving someone else for you, he will someday leave you for someone else. A leopard doesn't change it's spots, sweetie. You should find someone who cherishes you and doesn't have another girlfriend.
2006-10-05 01:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say forget about him.If he was with that other girl for so long then dumps her for you - what will he do to you in a year or so when he's done with you?
2006-10-05 01:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by taterhead30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋