now I've been seeing tihs young lady for about 2 yrs and things aren't the same in fact the relationship has faded and now I want to end it you know stop trying to make something happend that isn't...but I don't know how...I want to do it in a not so brutal way after all she so sweet I don't want to hurt her too bad...don't kow what to do.
2006-10-05 01:45:56 · 11 answers · asked by matchbox 78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously your going to have to let her down gently. If i were you, id try to sit down one day and figure out what it is that has changed, that way when she asks, you dont look like a jerk saying "it just has" or "i dont know" Sit her down (dont take her out to dinner or a movie before, thats teasing) but just sit her down somewhere like, a coffee shop, that way she cant blow up there..if she does decide to fight with you. Tell her that you love her, and that you dont want what your about to say effect your friendship with her in any way.Tell her honestly that there is just something thats not there anymore, tell her you dont want to lead her on so you can figure out if the relationship is right or not. Simply tell her "i love you, and i want to be friends with you, but theres just not much here in our relationship anymore..maybe in the future but just not right now. i really hope this doesnt effect our friendship in any way because i value what we have." blah blah..just be really nice, let her know you dont want to hurt her, and just work from there. Good luck!
2006-10-05 01:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you really feel. No matter what happens, if she cares about you she will be hurt. She is probably A LOT stronger than you could ever imagine. You will end up hurting her more from lack of communication or lying. Open & honest communication is your best bet. If it's not there it's not there both of you will be better off moving on. She probably won't be very surprised if it has faded.
2006-10-05 09:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to her face, not via phone, letter, or email. Tell her your position in the relationship and the feelings you have that the relationship has faded over the years. Back up these feelings with some examples. Tell her that you don't see the relationship going in the right direction anymore as it is not strong as it originally was. Tell her you would like to move on with someone else and you wish her the best and your open to staying friends.
2006-10-05 08:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Lips of Morphine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is sweet and loves you, you may think twice about ending the relationship. Good, sweet women are not found on every corner these days.
But, if you must end it, be up front with her and be truthful. She may be hurt at first, but, will respect you for your honesty later.
She can be a friend or an enemy for life, depending on how you handle it. Good luck
2006-10-05 08:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had your fun have you? Feeling very BAD are you? You realise that if you hurt her ,someday, someone will do the same to you, it's called karma, what goes around comes around. She possibly really loves you, plans to have your children and you just want to rip the rug out from under her. How do you break up with someone and not hurt them too much ? You Schmuck !
2006-10-05 08:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No break up will ever be easy, someone is always hurt. Talk with her and let her know things have changed for you. Sometimes people are in our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime....no really is there forever.....that only happens in fairytales...
Good luck, be kind, just do it! Don't drag it on....
2006-10-05 08:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up is never easy and shes giong to be hurt no matter what you say or do!Just be as honest as you can with her tell her to her face and try not to leave her with loads of unanswered questioned dont give her the "lets be friends"crap cause its confussing and annoying give her space for a while and then phone her in a few weeks to see how she is.....she'll be hurt but she'll get over it my advice is do it sooner rather than later for both your sakes good luck!!!!
2006-10-05 08:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've dated for 2 years!!!!.Cant something be done to save the relationship.You said it yourself...She's sweet.If you dont want to hurt her,you obviously care.Try working it out.You're going to hurt her anyway if you try not to.Tell her the prolem and you two can work it out.
2006-10-05 09:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Teen Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to hurt her one way or the other, so just be quick and to the point. Do not drag it out.
2006-10-05 08:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT WRIGHT A NOTE!!!!
thats wut my gf did(she broke up wit a note)
she said the day she did she cried all the way home and the next 2 days
im confused
2006-10-05 08:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by total.hippy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋