Firstly, at my nephews B'day party there was a Bouncy castle, I jumped on it saying "I'm the Bouncy castle monster" my niece got frightened by this and the next time I saw her she said "You're not really a monster are you?"
Earlier this week I was looking after my two nieces and did my back in lifting the younger out of her high chair and cursed the pain.
My niece got scared by this and wouldn't look or talk to me afterwoods.
How can I get her to trust me again?
2006-10-05 01:31:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Wordykat, all the rest of the kids on the bouncy castle found it hilarious and I hope you never suffer from a bad back because I'd never wish it on anybody!
2006-10-05 01:42:52 · update #1
I'm going to tell you a little story about me when I was young. I had a jokester uncle always played with all the kids. One day I was staying at his house, when he came home from work we all started playing-his daughter, my sister and myself. He initiated the jumping on the bed, just like your jumping in the moon walk. He was throwing us on the bed and we would bounce. Innocent fun, well when he tossed me onto the bed, my hand accidentally hit him in the glasses and they fell off. He stopped- scolded me and put me in the corner. I am 40 something and remember how hurtful that was, Kids take things the wrong way and remember forever especially when they have a fear. Your niece my fear monsters, you need to sit down with her and explain you were only pretending and it is not true and hopes she understands. My uncle never apologized even with my aunt yelling at him, kids are funny- hope your niece forgives you.
2006-10-05 01:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lady X 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, kids are very sensitive but they tend to forget after a while although saying that my 2 year old still remembers the "baddie" on her foot (a scratch) which disappeared about 6 months ago!
Maybe she's just not used to you behaving that way, ru known as the sensible aunt or are you usually daft around the children? If you're usually sensible she's probably a bit thrown by the "wild" side in you! She'll be ok, just tell her you were trying to make them laugh & the time you cursed you had a very sore back & tell her you won't say it again.
Children are actually a lot more switched on than we give them credit for
2006-10-05 08:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor little sausage- don't worry, but she sounds like a nervous wee thing. Just talk to her nicely, play a pretend monster game where she get's to "get" the monster and keep showing her that there is no need to be afraid of you. Maybe you could tell her you were sorry if she got scared- but sometimes you get a little bit silly and you didn't know you were being scary. Get her something little and give her the chance to tell you off for being scary. Or let her be a monster and get really scared of her- show her it's only a game
Good luck.
2006-10-06 03:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just sitting down with her and her parents. Start talking to the parents and gradually engage her with conversation, it wouldn't hurt if you to her and tell her that uncle squidgey is sorry for scaring her, and he will try not to scare her again, then try to be mindfully of before you start playing monster, or lifting children out of high chairs, with a bad back, {(painful) been there, doing that} have her parents take her to another rooms or focus her attention on something eles, so that she won't get scare, and dislike you for the rest of her childhood. Good luck with that.
2006-10-08 12:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents baby her? Maybe she's overly sensative. Calm it down when you are around her and only dainty playing. Try to coax her out of her fear of growling adults and cursing uncles and don't let her parents baby her too much. Even girls gotta deal with the real world.
Sensative kids are tough and a bit annoying, but they grow out of it for the most part or turn into the hugest sissy's
2006-10-05 05:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's either really nervous or really good at playing you.
i used to frighten my neices and nephews all the time, it takes no time to get them back trusting & loving all over me. it sounds cruel but i did it intentionally, playing. i guess we're dysfunctional but they loved it. the monster in the basement and all that....it was a game and they totally enjoyed it, laughing the entire time. kids are different though. bribery IS a good way if you've gone too far though. a nice juicee, candy, or a small toy always works. lol, good luck. now that u know she's nervous/whiney just be cool around her.
2006-10-05 01:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Meli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just simply tell her that your sorry for scaring her and you didn't mean to then ask if you can still be friends..this should make her feel a bit better,if she still seems scared back off a bit and try again later by gently and slowly involving yourself in her play..when she trusts u give her lots of cuddles and kisses to say how sorry you are..hope this helps!in future try to stay calmer and gentle with her..and bite ur tongue next time u need to curse lol
2006-10-07 14:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by yummy_mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to clam down the aggression in your voice, she sounds like a very nervous child and like she is scared very easily, is something upsetting her at home for her to be this nervous? try not been a monster for a few weeks and try doing girly things in order to help her trust you and if possible try and ask if everything is ok with her in every aspect of her life, its challenging but it helps
2006-10-05 01:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHAHA.
You poor thing. you do realise now whatever you do she's going to be scared of you. It's like when you always make an idiot of yourself in front of the same person, over and over again, and you just can't stop...
good luck - i'd go with bribery/sweets etc too, and maybe try and stay away from her a bit, i find kids are like cats. They alwasy come to the people who pay them the least attention. Which is why i'm usually hassled by both...
2006-10-05 01:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My brother is like this with my lil girl.....he has no kids, so has no concept of going too far!!! He pretends to be a monster then shi.ts himself when she cries or he says her stuff is his and upsets her again........(she is a bit of a whinger!!)
I feel sorry for him cos he does try he just can't get the right balance........it will come though, I'm sure his heart is willing as I'm sure yours is too!!! It will right itself.....good luck.
2006-10-05 01:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by EMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋