What were your experiences and how did it make you feel to know that your male friend had a "Main Woman" at home that was not you? Be Honest
2006-10-05 01:10:50 · 13 answers · asked by kenyacfld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have just got out of that situation. I am still very much in love with this man. I know he loves me too, but he is not ready to leave yet. It is hard knowing that he is going home to someone else everynight. I knew about it going in and we promised each other complete honesty. I just enjoyed the time we had together and didn't think about what they did. The way I look at it is if things were fantastic between them he wouldn't be with me too. You do have to be careful though. this is a very painful situation. My friend was honest rom the get go and told me he wasn't ready to leave his wife. She did find out about us. We tried not to see each othe but that didn't work. Things did get different though. He felt more guilt because he had to lie to her face and see the pain he was causing her. I also know if he ends up with me he will probably cheat on me too. Unfortunately my heart doesn't always listen to my head. Other people will also judge you as a "bad" person for breaking up a marriage. I think the marriage is alrady broken if he or she is looking for fulfillment with someone else but many people only blame the other woman. Enjoy the time you are with him and know that when he is with you you are all that matters.
2006-10-05 01:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Stephani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in the unfortunate situation where I found myself in love with a married man, going over to his house when his wife was out etc. It feels great when you think you've found someone who understands you so completely and you feel excellent being with them, but it feels crap when it finally dawns on you that he is never going to leave his "main woman" (no matter how much he is unhappy in the relationship) for you. I used to think, if only I had met him 6 months earlier he would be married to me not her etc. 2 years later I am over it although I still do think about him occassionally...
I never really thought about the wife or put myself in her shoes, I guess when you are doing something like that you are pretty selfish
2006-10-05 01:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally disgusting. I have been the other woman, and it hurts both the wife and you (as the other woman).
You feel that you are not loved and wanted enough, because if he truly loved you and wanted you he would left his family to be with you. There is no 'because of the kids' excuse, as today we all know that it is worst to submit kids to an unhealthy relationship than separate and move on your own, see kids at weekends or take the kids with you.
The fact that you have to 'hide' your relationship from everyone... you cannot go out with your guy in case he meets someone and tells his wife. You cannot call him when he is at home, you have to be careful when to send an sms, in case his wife sees it.
If you are still on time, and not yet in love with this guy, move on... it will hurt you most!!! More than his wife believe me, because no matter what he says, she is his wife!
2006-10-05 01:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds well truthfully. But you are saying get rid of affirmative motion, then you definitely say ladies have got to tackle as so much blue collar jobs as guys. Is that now not affirmative motion? So the whole thing besides the final one, considering the fact that it is going in opposition to eliminating affirmative motion.
2016-08-29 07:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been the other woman. It doesn't make you feel sexy, it doesn't make you feel good, it doesn't make you feel wanted. Face it, you're there only for HIS pleaseure, when HE wants it, and you get NOTHING in return. It's not worth feeling bad about yourself, which I did. Just remember what goes around, comes around. If he cheats oh her to be with you. What keeps him from cheating on you to be with another?
2006-10-05 01:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, more than once! It's not a good feeling, and it never will be. Unfortunately, if you know this person is attached then you also have to accept that the relationship will never be anything more than sex!
2006-10-05 01:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy was seperated, but still in love with his wife. Its awful, don't go there, unless you Love hurting people and drama. I feel guilty, it was not worth it. Also they don't usually ever leave their wives.
2006-10-05 01:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't believe in sharing my men, so I just left him alone. It makes you feel unwanted, like you don't have everything to satisfy him, but I left him!
2006-10-05 01:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by hotchick5195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks and it's terrible karma.
2006-10-05 01:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I dont think i can handle that...so once i learn that he is seeing someone else, I'm GONE..KAPUT..GOODBYE...SAYONARA!
2006-10-05 01:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by mctorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋