Relationship Advice?

Question

Hi,

Please can anyone help, my girlfriend an i have been together for three years an we have been living together for 19months.

We are now having major serious arguments about everything from money to leaving stuff around the house. an not listening or helping with things To not doing housework. It is manily me that is not doing things an causing arguments. Its more me casuing the problems!

But now she wants us to break up cos she has had enough of me not changing or not doing things an it going back to the way it was as in not helping etc. she has turfed me into the spare room now as well moving all my stuff in their

I dont want to loose her an i do really love her but i dont know what to do to make her love me again an to get through this. I dont want to be with anyone else. What can we do practically an say to make things get better?

PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

You don't mention if you two had discussed this and she was hoping you would change but you didn't....guess that's why you're in the dog house.
Money issues can be calmly discussed without screaming or name calling and compromise is the key. You two are a team that works together to take care of the finances.
Housework? Well, it won't do itself and if you work together, it will be done twice as fast -- leaving time for the two of you to do other things more pleasant.
If you lover her so much -- why don't you listen? I don't get it. It takes very little effort and means so much to a woman. Besides, she probably isn't asking you to fix everything. Maybe she just wants to vent about something or she may be asking for your co-operation or ideas about the household -- this should interest you enought to show you care about those things too and will show her that you KNOW that together you are a team helping each other deal with everyday life issues.
You HAVE to communicate sincerely, really want to change your ways and then actually DO it, or you will be out the door.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

There was a time when the female side of the relationship took care of all the household chores. But this is 2006 almost 2007! It takes two to love, it takes two to keep the house clean. I know it's hard for a guy to be aware of where he puts things when he has had mom picking up after him all his life. Well that life no longer exists. You are an adult now and should pick up after yourself. Come on now, you two have obviously made some pretty important decisions to this point, actually living together. That's sharing everything, even the cleaning and cooking and shopping, and bills, EVERYTHING. So pick up some flowers on your way home, tell her you love her and that you WILL take care of you responsibilities from now on. And that she can smack you with a pillow when you forget. Oh and by the way, if you see if could use dusting, just do it~! hugs

Answer 4

You need to print off this question and give it to her!
youve admitted that you're responsible for a lot of the problems and you obviously love her so just talk to her!
Let her know you're really gona change your ways and put in an effort around the house etc and Im sure she'll reconisder. Good luck! xx

Answer 5

You both need to sit down, go out for a meal to get out of the house, and discuss whats going on and how you can both pull together. Im not in a good predicament to give advice as im in a similar situation but good luck. Why not send her some flowers?

Answer 6

It sounds to me like the two of you need to seriously sit down and have a long conversation. You need to tell her how much you love her and that you are willing to help in any way that you can. If you love her enough, you will change things for the better, and if she loves you enough, she will be willing to compromise.

Answer 7

Then you have to turn yourself around and start doing the things that you should be doing around the house/apartment!!! Like picking up after yourself, putting things away, etc. You know what you should be doing, she has told you!!! So, like I said just turn yourself around and start doing the things that you know you should be doing. And maybe start talking to her, appologize, give her some flowers, say that you would like to continue the relationship, etc.

Answer 8

if you really love this girl you will listen to her and do you share in the house and to avoid arguing with her all the time, cleansiness is next to godliness, go to her apologize tell her you love her and will do everything to try and sort sumthings out between the two of you, show her you do care and take it from there

Answer 9

Get your act together and quit being so difficult to live with. Use the check spelling feature too when posting.

Answer 10

Pretty simple really.You said you know it's you who's causing most of the problems, so you need to change your ways.You say you really love her, so if that's the case,then you'll do whatevers neccesary.Good luck.