Do you find you and your fiancee bickering about the arrangements and generally being stressed with each other about the whole thing? That is hapening to us with 2 weeks to go, is this normal?
2006-10-05 00:38:37 · 27 answers · asked by jaygirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oooooooo yes, welcome to the pre wedding jitters, i have been married for 6weeks now and i remember having all the doubts and makin sure that every thibg was ok and i even called off the wedding an was going to split up if it was not for my partner been string headed and telling me thats its all going to be fine so many times i dont think we wud be were we are today, i was soooooo stressed about every thing it was untrue, i would say that if your not having the arguments and what not then there would be something wrong...... so please dont worry it will be all fine and dandy once your walking down the isle it all seams to go away.. (oh and if ur going in a car they leave you on ur own for a couple ov mins, i was telling my self not to worry i think it kinda help) anyhoo good luck with it all and congrats x
2006-10-05 02:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by mummyzgall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I have seen couples barely speaking to each other before the wedding. This is quiet normal, it's not right, and causes even more stress, but yes unfortunately it's normal. Do this for me, grab your man by the hand and go out. If you don't do anything but go to McDonald's for a coke. Rules are you are not allowed to talk about the wedding. That subject is off limits. No discussions, no questions, no nothing. Just enjoy being together.
Wedding are one the most stressful times in a couples lives. Some of the stress is unneccessary, but often it's not. Please remember that neither one of you is going to be the nicest people to be around right now. But also remember no matter if the cake is lop-sided, the wedding favors are forgotten, the bridesmaid's are complaining....the reason for all of is ....you and your fiance want to spend your lives together as man and wife.
Let me tell you this too, sweetie. No wedding is perfect. Never been one that has not had their share of problems, and there won't ever be one. The main thing for you to do right now, is to reconnect with the man you love. He's feeling neglected, and you are feeling abused. Both of you are tried, and your feelings are easily hurt. Solution...run away...grab him and go ...get away from all the stress and worries for a couple of hours at least.
Give him a call and say "I need a coke" and go now. No phone calls, turn off those pesty cell phones, just you and him. I promise it will help. I made my daughter and her fiance leave, and I did this too 26 years ago. It works! May you have the most beautiful and most happiest wedding day.
2006-10-05 01:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, totally! I've just got married, and with the run up to it being so stressful i had to get my dress altered (2 inches taken in!) the week before!
My hubby and I did nothing but argue, about everything, things we would never let get to us did, silly things....EVERYTHING! It was sometimes a close call that we may just cancel everythin as we thought if we're arguing like this why are we gettin married!
Needless to say we carried on regardless, had a wonderful wedding day in September and 1 month on we do giggle and say how stupid we both were!
Hang on in there, you decided to get married for a reason (sometimes in between the stress and organising it gets forgotten) but it will be totally worth it in the end.
Have a wonderful day and my one piece of advice is try and steel a few moments alone on the day, cause it will fly by! X
2006-10-05 01:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by wavebreakin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jaygirl. This is totally normal. It is stressful to commit to only one person for the rest of your life. You are subcontiously very afraid that this mariage will fail. The reaction to your doubt is biting each others' heads of with the arrangements of your wedding day. Get through this and go have a great honeymoon so that the two of you can make it up big time! Enjoy your wedding day I believe that it will go off perfectly and then the fun starts! PARTY!
2006-10-05 00:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by alwyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes. (im a photographer) its just stress, tiinged with a little panic... all perfectly nnormal, especially if your doing it yourselves. learn to delegate. give folks jobs. as a photographer, i give my couples a sheet of instructions. like, i dont know anyone, and the photos can take ages of you arent organised, so the best man becomes my sheepdog.. and gets the flock together. on the day, itll go like clockwork, trust your professionals, weve done this hundreds of times, in my 30 years ive only ever had two disasters..one i lost four rolls of film at the processors, i got the wedding and stock pics, but no reception, and the second my flash went bang.. luckily again, after the actual wedding ceremomny and shots.. i had 30 minutes to go and buy another... and i should mention, its a 300 quid metz.
you will stop being so stressed, but it wont happen until around midnight on your wedding day... just like everyone else...
congratulations, and i hope it all goes well for you...
2006-10-05 00:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sooooooooooooooooo normal. Pressure of the day is building, you wanting everything perfect, and everyone is getting on your nerves. You know what? You can't plan everything to be perfect and you can't control everything. Just set back, take it easy, and remember the reason that you are getting married. You love each other. No one will remember the color of the cake, or if a bridesmaid tripped. they will remember the look of love between you. That's what is important. So celebrate that. By the way, congrats!
2006-10-05 00:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We kept our wedding really simple so didn't go through that, I'd guess it is normal though. It's a huge shame because a wedding should bring you closer not slowly tear you apart!
Remember why you're doing it and talk to each other. Fighting over tabel arrangements etc is just daft when you think about it.
Give him a hug, compromise and enjoy your day!
2006-10-05 00:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by DemonicaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal. Getting married is very stressful and emotional. When you are stressed you will always take this out on the peson closest to you - your fiance. Don't worry at all, you will have a fabulous day and trust me the time right after you have got married is fantastic. Good Luck
2006-10-05 00:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is very normal. the problem is men are to laid back and like to leave everything until the last minute (they like to run around like headless chickens) for example Christmas shopping lol us woman like to involve are husband-to-be after all its them we are marrying and not the sister or mother-in-law. we like to make sure everything is perfect and everyone knows what has to be done or said. this is why woman sort the wedding arrangements out otherwise if left to men you would have a date to get wed but the week before your big day they would have problems with booking the church/reception. men don`t seem to understand what woman want or need i think it is cause they just agree and don`t actually listen to what has just been said lol.
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