So I Never Loose Her?
2006-10-05 00:00:47 · 43 answers · asked by Romeo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love something set it free
If it comes back it will always be yours
If it doesn't it was never yours to beging with.
It is not fair to either of you to trick her in such an underhanded way.
2006-10-05 00:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Trapping is never a good idea. While a baby can often bring people together, it can also tear you apart. Caring for a child is difficult and at many times stressful which can create tension and anger towards one another.I am a parent myself, and the baby has created a lot of problems between my spouse and I. Also, think about what you're doing: You said you want to have a baby with her to keep her, you didn't mention actually WANTING the baby itself. If you really don't have that desire alone, then why attempt it? If you and your girlfriend are on the verge of breaking up, then its bound to happen whether there's a child involved or not. And if you do stay together simply for the child, then what type of relationship would that be? One filled with animosities and regrets which will definitely reflect on the child. Would you want that for that kid? Think long and hard about this.
2006-10-05 00:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by in need of help! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot guarantee she would stay with you or keep the baby. You sound a very possessive and insecure person. Accept that if you two are not meant to be together then you won't - you cannot force someone to be with you no matter how much you want it. It is also not right to take control in something as important as this - have you given even an ounce of thought for the poor baby? You are using it as a weapon.
2006-10-05 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible thing to do. Not only for you and her, but for the poor child. She will not stay with you just because you have a child. She may stay for a while, but that will be a miserable and argumentative while. You will end up paying 15% of your income in child support untill the child leaves full time education. And you will ruin 2 other lives in the process. Grow up mate, this is probably the worst suggestion I have ever heard.
2006-10-05 02:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way this is a bad idea on a lot of levels. You really must be very low on self confidence an need her in that way to make yourself feel better. I think it is best just to talk to her about how you feel not too go down this road as you may regret it having a child so early an then feel that you dont want to be with her again an have a kid as well.
Just learn to loev yourself an build you own independance an confidence
2006-10-05 01:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by charliechalk79 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea but if she is having $.e.x. with you then you are obviously already in there ("so to speak"). So if you wanna marry her...try and love her..wait for her to be ready... patience is important in a relationship and if you can wait for her to be ready for marriage she'll respect you more. Besides you should not be trying to get her pregnant especially if shes not ready for a baby. A woman go's through alot and to force her into being a mother is not wise on your part because a child is a lot of responsibuility.
2006-10-05 00:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to spend the rest of your life with her, then why not ask her to marry you, you should want to bring a baby in the world because you both want children not that it will make her stay with you. You have do little things such has having romantic dinners, take her for romantic weekends away, buy her flowers with a love message in, do things like this to make her feel special and loved, you have to work at a relationship, if she feels loved and cared for, she will have no reason to leave.
2006-10-05 00:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you ought to divorce your spouse, she advantages to be dealt with better suited and certain she will be able to get 0.5 of each little thing it really is yours yet no longer all of it and that i imagine that you recognize that once what shes been by that it could be better than honest. you will get someplace new to stay and then do inspite of you opt for. i imagine that, possibly, from all the different solutions you've received on right here that you'll now likely see that you've carried out some thing very incorrect yet even although you've acted in this form there is not any rationalization why you ought to be unhappy on your marriage. All you want to do no is take the right steps to sense free. tell your spouse yet do it contained in the most smooth way that you'll. get rid of the 'sex is tremendous' GF as you're foremost her on by skill of telling her you adore her once you dont as she will be with someone who needs her for better than only sex. Then destroy up and flow out, you could then start up life with a sparkling slate.
2016-11-26 03:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What childish thinking! Do you really believe that she would not leave you some time in the future just because you have a child together?
What world do you live in?
If you really believe what you've asked, you seriously need a whole lot of growing up - and very quickly too.
I am terrified that people as foolish and ignorant as you continue to bring more & more children into this already over-burdened world.
God have mercy on all of us!!
2006-10-05 00:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you want a relationship based off of kid, or love? If she decides she doesn't want to be with you after the kid, you will probably stay together for a while, but you won't be happy. If you guys aren't united under love, it won't last. And if there's no love involved, THERE'S NO POINT! I don't care how great you think she is.
2006-10-05 00:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A BIG NO!!She shud stay with u coz u guys love eachother no other reason or it'll end belly up!think of da poor baby in ol this
2006-10-05 00:29:42 · answer #11 · answered by soft heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋