2006-10-04 23:44:44 · 27 answers · asked by BritishPKR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes Because I take mine serious. but it depends on whom you ask
2006-10-04 23:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married 13 years ago at 21, then it was an escape from the family home and at the time I thought it was for real. How wrong was I? We divorced 9 years ago which seemed a happier day than the wedding. However I have been with my boyfriend now for near 8 years and we got engaged Christmas Day last year. I have told him I don't want to rush in to marriage and want us to both be 150% certain it's the right thing. I know though that when the day comes it will be taken extremely serious because I believe this time round I am older and wiser and understand properly what the vows mean. I would be devastated to go through a second wedding for it all to go wrong. However we went to our best friends wedding last year which was a fantastic fairy tale wedding, and summer this year they decided they would rather just be friends, they are still living together but in seperate rooms and do still enjoy each others company the majority of the time. When we questioned them why did they get married if this is how they felt, they replied they thought getting married would make their problems better. Getting married IS NOT the answer if you are having relationship problems.
If you are getting married or are married and are having problems, I hope you sort them out and GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-04 23:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriage isnt' taken seriously enough, although it should be.
Somewhere along the line the significance has been lost in translation, and people are using it as an excuse for a piss up or just because they want the fairytale day.
I think its sad, and hope that if I ever get married then he will share the same values as I do
2006-10-06 02:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by LADY__LUCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, marriage is taken very seriously. I can't wait til I'm married and I know that my boyfriend and I would never cheat on each other. But I do agree that many people don't really take marriage seriously and it's sad. People shouldn't get married if they aren't ready to commit themselves completely to their significant other.
2006-10-06 08:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by ~Angie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question. The other day a friend came on line and mentioned he was in Philly on business and even though he is now married he wanted to meet a woman and take her to his room. I was so put off by this and he even became angry with me when I told him it was wrong. He accused me of being judgmental . I wasn't trying to judge him, but I don't understand how so many people take marriage for granted and have such little regard for the sanctity of it.
2006-10-04 23:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The romantic in me would like to think so but unfortunately, with divorce being made simpler, I'm afraid that people don't make the effort they should do to solve problems in their marriage. The key is communication, respecting each other and trust. Don't rush into marriage - as the saying goes, married in haste repent at leisure.
2006-10-04 23:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people give it their all, and it still does not work out, it depends if both parties are 100% committed and willing to work on the bad things. Some people give up too easily, and something minor can turn into something major if left and not talked about. Keeping the lines of communication open is so important.
2006-10-05 00:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what thats an execellent ques and i dont belive it is to most ppl anymore i mean how much has the divorce rate risen? and nowadays ppl have one big fight and all over and u packing your bags i belive when you agree to marry someone you make a lifetime comitment and you agree to stay and support eachother no matter what but in some cases ppl do change for the worse like if you being verbally or physically abused the only answer is divorce so the answer to your ques no i dont think so but to me it is very serious and still is to some special ppl hope you find yours ;o)
2006-10-05 04:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly the US has one of the highest divorce rates, even higher rates for 2nd time marriages too! I think many people have the upgrade mentality and not really work in making the relationship work.
2006-10-05 00:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by MsBeautyLuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe not to everyone, but that is just what you see in the media. there are a lot of couples out there that take their marriage seriously and are still madly in love...you just don't hear about them because they are wither not famous or have not done anything to have their marriage questioned or recognised. just like everything else, negativity gets more attention.
2006-10-04 23:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by denise s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I certainly tried my damnedest! Twenty one years of it until I realized that, hey, I only have ONE life to live...do I really want to spend it in this miserable existence? NO, I do not. My reasons for staying in this marriage have changed...but I did try!
2006-10-05 00:35:47 · answer #11 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋