I was hooking up with this guy who was a friend, and he has a girlfriend who i dont know personally, we spent two amazing weeks together while she was on holidays, she returned and he still made contact with me even as just friends. She rang me the other day asking what had happened, and not to cover for him as she wanted the truth. I told her nothing happened as he didnt want her to find out obviously. Did i do the right thing? Should i have told her the truth?
2006-10-04 23:08:31 · 12 answers · asked by Nik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Goodness, I think my answer's going to make me sound really callous but:
I think that, as you don't know her personally, you can safely ignore the situation as much as possible. You don't know her, their relationship (in trouble or otherwise) is none of your business and there's no need for you to get involved. It's natural that you're going to stick up for him because you know him and like him, if you don't know her at all you're not going to feel so compassionate towards her are you? She must have her own friends to rely on and her relationship with this guy can't be great if he's playing away and she's doubting him. I would sit tight. Keep your head down, keep out of everyone's way and try not to contact him too much for a while. Wait and see how things turn out with them, if they stay together then you will have to admit defeat (but at least you won't have made a fool of yourself in the meantime) and if they split then you get first dibs, he knows you like him and he trusts you because you didn't rock the boat when you could easily have ruined his life (albeit temporarily!). Do the sensible thing and be detached, if she calls again you can politely tell her that you don't want to interfere with their relationship and that she should ask him if she doesn't trust him, it's nothing to do with you. Let him sort it out, he got himself into this mess, let him get himself out!
OK, so that does make me sound callous. I know it's good to always tell the truth and that you might appreciate someone else telling you the truth in the same situation but life is never that simple is it? Think of yourself and be happy.
2006-10-04 23:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Katie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didnt do the right things. I would have told her.This female deserves to know.Why would you want her to continue to be hurt.Why would you allow him to keep using the both of you when ever he wants to ?I looked at your past questions and if all of these last questions are related to this young man then you are in deed having feelings for this guy. The sad part is he is taken. He has lied and cheated to both of you.Yes you as well. Now just think if things progress and you become his woman after a amazing time together what will he do to you ? If you are the one he wants why hasnt he ended things with his girl ? Right now the stolen moments that are amazing will soon become heart ache to someone and that someone might be you. Find someone else . You know what goes around comes around.
2006-10-05 00:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 03:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have told her the truth as she called you to ask and asked you to honestly answer. You didn't do this so if she finds out she's going to be equaly angry, if not moreso at both you and this guy. I think you should tell her but tell her you were worried about hurting her feelings or something like that, because though you and this guy are as bad as eachother maybe you and her might not end up having an all out ***** fest...
2006-10-04 23:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rachie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask yourself that question. Would you have wanted her to tell you if it wouldve been the other way around. Lets say your the girl out on holidays you boyfriend hooks up with another girl you call her would you want her to tell you the truth ask that to yourself ans see then youve got your anwser
2006-10-04 23:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by *t. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to her and tell her the truth. It's not too late to tell the truth anytime. Do not you feel unfaithful to her and hiding him ? Are you still in love with him? If yes, then you are going to ruin her life and your life as well. Do not you think that what have you done is ethically right for you also? Please be honest and truthful in your life to achieve something. Sorry to hurt your feelings but this is the truth............
2006-10-04 23:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a catch twenty-two situation.....
if you tell the truth you could get him in a lot of trouble,
but if you keep lying about it, will you be able to live with your conscience....what you also need to remember is that if he was your boyfriend would you want someone to tell you what he did....
now you just need to decide which one you can live with the easiest
2006-10-04 23:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Wendz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your problem your you werent the one cheating but i wouldnt be going back for more obviously hes not a man thats thrustworthy dont feel guilty just move on and put it all behind you.
2006-10-04 23:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth it will set you free,,,
the truth is always the best option
2006-10-04 23:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body deserves the truth ! You think you deserve it don't you ?
2006-10-04 23:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by rubyflats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋