If you're close to another member of her family, you might discretely sound them out about the issue. If they say that much of the family will be terribly offended if you don't wear black, then there's your answer.
But if you don't know the rest of the family that well or still aren't certain after you talk to them, I'd personally err on the side of caution. You could wear something like charcoal grey or dark blue (dark but not quite as somber as black) and add a brightly colored scarf or other accessory in honor of your friend.
2006-10-04 23:11:55
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answered by Wolfeblayde 7
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I think that you should wear the bright colours that your friend loved.
I think that wearing black is to show a sign of respect, but is probably quite an old fashioned view now. I am sure that all who knew and loved your friend would know why you were wearing bright colours so you would not offend anybody.
If you are not sure you could always add a black armband.
Hope that all goes as well...good luck!
2006-10-05 06:04:37
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answered by HellsBells 1
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If you wear anything that isn't black the ppl at the funeral will think of you as someone with no consideration despite your friend's taste in bright colours. I think you better stay on the safe side and wear black or else no one will take you seriously!
2006-10-05 06:57:03
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answered by Dahv Inchi 3
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It's not even traditional to wear dark colours anymore - it's more to wear something simple - colours are fine! You will know why you are wearing what you are! For example, my husband will not wear black, and does not like it when I wear black. I always think he would be so disappointed if everyone showed up in black at his funeral (not to get maudlin, or anything....).
2006-10-05 10:28:56
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answered by Lydia 7
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things have really changed over the years and you can wear bright colors now, without feeling out of place. Just be sure it is not a party dress, casual and comfortable would be my guess. Nothing to flashy and over the top. Use your discretion. But in my opinion if your friend enjoyed the brighter side of life, then go for it, after all this is a celebration of her/his life. My condolences, God Bless
2006-10-05 10:23:38
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answered by ? 7
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go traditional but hold something with some bright colors or maybe tear a patch of her clothing with the bright colors and wear it on your clothing, have the other people do this also, it will show respect and love for your friend. Sorry for your loss.
2006-10-05 06:52:17
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answered by Anonymous
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It is proper to wear black or dark clothing out of respect for the person as well as the family. But in today's day and age I have seen people going to funeral dressed in jeans and t-shirts. I myself being a biker have been to biker funeral dressed in jeans, t-shirt and leather vest. I would suggest that you go dressed properly BUT also wearing something of her favorite color and let the family know you are wearing this piece in her memory because you know this was her favorite color. It would be nice if you also took that item and placed it in the casket with this person as well. Myself when I die I don't want a wake, BUT should my old lady decide on having one then I want to be in the casket in JEANS, T-SHIRT and my LEATHERS.
2006-10-05 06:49:42
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answered by GRUMPY 7
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See what type of funeral your friend is having I've attended many where the family requested that everyone wear bright colors to celebrate the life of the person rather then mourn the death
2006-10-05 06:07:52
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answered by Love always, Kortnei 6
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i think you should wear her favourite colours. im sure she would appreciate it if u did. but then again, if her family is attending and they are very traditional, maybe opt for mostly dark with only a little colour.
2006-10-05 19:49:06
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answered by Anonymous
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I would say wear a mix of both-bright colors to remember your freind and dark clothes out of respect for her family
2006-10-05 06:15:15
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answered by the_silver_tin_man 3
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