There is a guy i love soo much we used to text each other a lot and he told me how he felt about me and i told him how i felt about him too. He would always flirt with me and so will I and then i heard he had a girlfriend but she don't treat him well as I do and I confronted him and he told me he did but it is not as it could be plus he can't break up with her because it may ruin their friendship!! But we still texted each other as normal and i told him that I don't want ruin his relationship wit his girlfriend and he was ok with it and we still texted as normal. But lately he don't text me as much he keeps forgetting to text me and I think things between him and his girlfriend is going good !! Also i was at a party and i saw him and waved at him and he waved back but because i had a lot of things on my mind i ended up ignoring him and now we aint talking i tried to text him but he didnt reply back!!! Please help me !!!
2006-10-04 22:52:26 · 31 answers · asked by Miss_Party_Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly let me say how sorry i am to hear of your problem it would seem to me that this guy is a player i understand that you may feel in love with him but can he give you what you want and need which is complete happyness youu sound like such a nice person who desveres the best in life my advise would be to try texting him again and explain how you feel and what you want not what he wants and if he still shows no intrest then forget about him the question you need to ask is do i really want to be some guys bit of fun on the side i hope this helps you
2006-10-04 23:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Denver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have several choices ahead of you:
1. You carry on texting him, thinking that he may have forgotten to reply. Suddenly you're sending him 5+ reminders in the space of a day. He thinks you're a bunny boiler (which you are danger of turning into)
This is probably NOT the way to go.
2. You don't text him again. Ever. You lose a friend that may have been something more.
This is probably not the way to go.
3. And surely the most difficult. You text him in a few days, and think carefully what you want to say. Don't declare yourself. Just say that you hope he's very hapopy, you don't want to break things up, and you'd like to be mates. Then sit back and wait for him to reply. If he doesn't then he's an ****. If he does, then you have to be careful. Let him reply. And do nothing. Let him send another text, and THEN reply.
By the way, he probably isn't talking to you because he has things on his mind too. Try texting.
2006-10-04 22:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have to be strong and forget him, I wonder if he would have told you he had a girlfriend if you had not heard, could this be the reason he is not texting you because you have found out about his girlfriend. What a pathetic excuse that he can not break up with his girlfriend because he will lose her friendship, the fact is he does not want too and you do not deserve to be treated in this way, it is not fair to tell you how he feels about you, when he has no intention of leaving his girlfriend. To me it seems like he was going through a bad patch and wanted to someone else to go to if his relationship broke up, now his relationship is better, probably his girlfriend found out he text you and she does not wish to lose him, has made the relationship better. Ask yourself truthfully why is he willing to throw your friendship away so easily and not that with this girlfriend, if he really liked you, he would leave her for you and would not do anything to hurt you. I know it will be tough, but do not text him again, he clearly has shown he is not interested and your the only one getting hurt here, their is someone out there far better than him and whom will treat you so much better you will wonder what you ever seen in him in the first place. Best of luck.
2006-10-04 23:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got bad news for you, and I sympathise because I myself have been here... You probably were never more than a distraction, at best you were a silver medal. Things have improved with his girlfriend so he doesnt need you any more like he did when things weren't so good. I'm sorry but I think you need to move on... or at the very least give it some distance and let him decide on his own what he wants to do (if he hasnt already)
All I can say is there are plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-10-04 22:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice person but you must value yourself alittle bit more than you do now. This guy knows how you feel about him yet he obviously isnt gonna leave his girlfriend, for whatever reason. I dont think its because of their friendship because if the relationship wasnt working he wouldnt be with her. You seriously need to move on.The right guy is out there for you! You must try to find places to go to thats avoiding him. Remember lifes for living so dont waste any more time on him and go out and enjoy yourself.
2006-10-04 23:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by MadDonna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a sign of avoiding... I think the relationship between him and his girlfriend is going well and maybe he is trying to do good and avoid temptations in order not to ruin their relationship... Why don't you just move on, forget about him and don't push yourself too much on him... open your heart and mind to new opportunities in life... try to think and accept that he is already happy with his life... now you work on with your life and move on, Its time for you to look for something or someone that would make you happy...
2006-10-04 23:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just have to forget about this guy he is with some other girl so leave him alone and u will find a boyfriend and have a "real" relationship with him......u will feel sad at first but u will get over him..we have all been there and survived.
2006-10-04 22:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy in question already told you he doesn't want to break up with this girl and not only that, he sees you as the only instrument of destruction to their relationship and has decided to avoid you completely by not texting you again so why being crazy in love with someone who doesn't know you exist? please forget about this guy and move on.
2006-10-04 23:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're just crazy. Don't turn into a stalker. If he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend for you, forget him. He wants the best of two worlds and you're letting him. Drop him like the sack of potatoes he is.
2006-10-04 22:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by simvils 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont text him or make contact he will soon come running when hes had time to miss ya. things with his g/f must be ok at the mo thats prob why he hasnt texted ya dont let him take advantage and only talk to ya when things are bad for him. treat him mean and watch him come running
2006-10-04 22:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by delaruedebbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋