I usually end up with men who dont treat me right....... But now have met a man who is so kind, careing and thinks that he is so lucky to have met me and i know he would treat me right. He wants to be with me.
I do like him but im not attracted to hiim right now.
Can you learn to want a man your not initially attracted to?
2006-10-04 22:06:52 · 16 answers · asked by RAX1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey u know I think the best relationships are those where the physical attraction isn't the pinnacle of the relationship. Its great @ first when u are attracted n all, but believe me that attraction passes and then U are left with your personal relations with that person.
However, u do have to be aware that just cos someone else really fancies you, its not necessarily the best. Cos u both might not just be compatible and then the other person is always on the receiving end....
So what u need is to know more about ur partner. If u find that u just can't get enough of him, the more u discover about him, then u know ur on the right track....
2006-10-04 23:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by HushP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard if the initial spark isnt there hun! all I could recommend you to do is try it with this guy - you kow yourself he would treat you right - and thats so important! Just be careful not to break his heart! Hope you can work around this! xx
2006-10-04 23:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO BE HONEST WITH YOU IN MY OPINION MAMMA YES WE AS WOMEN TEND TO WANT TO BE WITH THE WRONG MAN BUT ISN'T IT CRAZY HOW THE WRONG MAN CAN SEX US SO GOOD AND THEN MAKE US FEEL LIKE THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD . WHEN YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT TREATS YUO GOOD MAKE THE BEST OF IT IF YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART THEN YOU MIGHT JUST FALL HEAD OVER HEELS FOR THIS FELLA EVEN THOUGH YOUR NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM I NOW FROM EXPERIENCE AND I'VE BEEN WITH MY HONEY FOR 9 YEARS AND HAVING OUR FIRST BABY LIFE IS GOOD NOT PRFECT BUT GOOD TREAT HIM NICE AND REAP THE REWARDS IT'S HARD NOW AND DAYS TO FIND A GOOD MAN TO TREAT US RIGHT BE FARE AND IF YOU JUST CAN NOT DO IT DON'T HURT HIM BE HONEST AND TELL HIM YOUR HEART IS JUST NOT IN IT BUT PLEASE DON'T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIM THAT'S THE LAST THING YOU WASNT THAT **** COMES BACK TO YOU WHEN YOU DO PEOPLE WRONG AND THEY HAVE GOOD INTENTIONS ON YOUR BEHALF.
2006-10-04 22:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by bonifiedelegance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend time with him, if you enjoy his company then sometimes it happens, one day you realise you like being with him and find him attractive. Of course, you may realise one day you can never feel physical attraction but at least give it a chance. He sounds like a good guy and there aren't loads of them around.
2006-10-04 22:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly . . . no. you can over time find yourself attracted to someone you didn't used to be but you can't learn how to do it. it either happens or it doesn't. treat him how he deserves to be treated and tell him the truth. you could have a great friendship in the making.
2006-10-04 22:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so diffficult but Anthony Robbins Life coach to presidents and such says, fall in love with someone you can talk to because when all else is gone, its all you will have left!
GoodLuck
2006-10-04 22:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him as a person and as a partner then the attraction will probably follow, you can only try if it does not work at least you tried, if you don't it will always be if only.
2006-10-04 23:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it will be hard go out for a whill no promises and see how u feel after that u may grow to like him and then who knows good luck
2006-10-04 22:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by stephen d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...its not just about looks..if he is good to you then go for it u deserve to be treated well.
2006-10-04 23:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose hes better than your previous so go
jump into that relationship
could eventually be the man of your dreams
2006-10-04 22:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋