I have dealt with so many relationship issues with my own experiences and friends experiences. Trust is the main thing that can make or brake a relationship. Does anyone know how to overcome this trust issue? I would like to hear your input.
2006-10-04 21:27:45 · 21 answers · asked by ruck_1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very hard for people, once they have been hurt in one relationship, to trust in another relationship.
If your significant other doesn't trust you, there is almost nothing you can do about it. It is not your problem, it is his or hers.
Often times people who have issues trusting others do not trust themselves in similar situations and they put their feelings of distrust on their partner...but this isn't always the case.
If it is you who doesn't trust your partner, then you need to ask yourself why you feel that way.
There might be signs that your partner is being dishonest, but if there isn't, then you need to just let it go, and trust as best you can.
The worst thing that could happen is that your partner is having an affair, and that is something you have no control over, so why waste time worrying about it? Your time is better spent enjoying your partner...and if he does you wrong, someone better will come along.
2006-10-04 21:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by anabele6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to just go into a relationship and think if it works then ok, if they start doing the running around, lying, cheating thing, then you just turn them loose in the jungle, as they are animals. Many people do not know how to say it is over, and many people too, are not that much in love, have a roving eye, and just cowards when it comes to breaking up. There is not anything you can do, but try to be careful before you take the leap into a relationship. It is really almost impossible to know until you do know the person real well, and then, they still surprise you. I guess with time and processing the numbers, you will find Mr. Right. Know, it may or may not work out, but time will tell, I hope. I think too, that they have been disappointed or hurt before, and they have a little bit of paranoid feelings, until proven otherwise.
2006-10-04 21:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked a very complicated question here! As you will have as many different answers as there are people or pretty close to it!
Experience teaches us as we go! We are learning from the time we are born!
I stated often even in my early teens, that if any one on this earth had a right to despise God and women, I was the one! For me they represented horror, pain and suffering! This was be for the dating and or relationships!
Parents teach with their conduct as well as other ways. They are teaching their kids. Mothers often teach their children not to trust the other gender with out knowing they are doing so!
The when you start dating, then your being taught by the other gender. Often this confirms what your Mother taught you!
Often I think if it wasn't for the sex drive each of us have, Men and women would have absolutely nothing to do with one another!
The trust issue starts with your parents! If your a parent, what are you teaching your child?
2006-10-04 21:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is usually given freely, but it is the hardest thing to regain once it is broken. No one likes to be hurt, and breaking trust is very painful. Why do we do it? Well, we're not the smartest creatures on this earth. The best we can hope for is that we learn from our transgressions before it's too late, and those that we love the most will love us back enough to forgive us.
That's the best I have, anyway.
2006-10-04 21:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cricket 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To form the trust between two person, two person beganning of a relationship must be honest and no false promises!
The relationship must be open as well as understanding!
2006-10-04 21:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by kathy T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust is big word, its really up to the person to trust someone and how to deal with insecurity. First, you and your partner should agree about something, like don't cheat on each other. We are only humans for one thing, promise that you and your partner will be true at each other and communicate about insecurities. Second, don't flirt with other people or make your partner jealous, kind of immaturity. Keep your partner safe from worrying, keep saying and do it, not to break his/her heart for other person.
2006-10-04 21:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i trust certain people and i don't trust others. trust is "earned" by getting to know a person. we're talking about integrity - "the way you act when no one else is watching." some men & women will cheat in a heartbeat. some never cheat. you have to know a person to know if you can really trust them. but you also can't go through life being super-suspicious of everyone. surround yourself with good honest people and you don't have to worry about it.
2006-10-04 21:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by painfullyaverage 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Though it is possible that we dont receive the same response, it is advisable to start with TRUST... and this will change our lives... I do it -- I admit some people have taken disadvantage of it -- but overall I am happy with my relationship be it my family or friends
2006-10-04 21:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because the stakes can feel so high. It's also coupled with insecurity, as in "I don't feel deserving of loyalty therefore it's hard to trust."
Personally I always try to be open, until somebody proves that I shouldn't be with them. It seems to work, (especially if you keep a little corner of pessimism secret).
2006-10-04 21:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust......belive......wow....
mam.... according to me what we give is what we get............OK then
u want to know about "trust issue"......i like to say that
don't make trust a issue....and dont try to find way to overcome this super gigantic issue dont fight with or dont conduct a detailed
sturdy and research on it just .......just be what you are...if you are a nice person others (even u r enemy's) will believe you if u r a bad person (and want to be a nice person) gradually you can correct u r self......so moral of the story is don't do a doctorate and a create a research report on this supernova "trust issue".....when you are thinking about "TRUST" or if you are talking to some one about trust- ask them to keep their mind clean....cool.....and ask them to B "what they r"........simple you can over come all "trust issue" { ? ..!!} believe me....
2006-10-04 21:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by firu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋