My bf is upset with me and I don't know what to do. Here is the deal. He asked me if I was still getting e-mails from one of this blokes that I know and I told him no. We don't even chat to one another. Then he tells me that I sent him the exact same email as what he sent him. So he asks me a couple of times do we still chat and obviously my answer was no. In about 3 min I realised that it was him that sent me the email and I forwarded to the bf. Now he is upset with me because I lied and now he does not know if he can trust me. My question is, what can I do to make things right? I know I was wrong and everything for not telling him in the first place but I did tell him eventually. Does that not then count. I was honest with him when I said that we don't chat and that email slipped my mind but when I remembered I told him. Please help, he is really mad at me and I don't want to lose the love of my life. What to do? What to do?
2006-10-04 21:05:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you sound so upset over something that is not such a big deal - unless your bf is making it into one.
Relax, with most couples, its only with a period of time that their actions and behaviour provide a sense of security to their significant others. If you really love him and have nothing to hide, it will show. Do not apologise but do explain and be supportive and open any number of times that he may question you about it in the beginning. Do not allow him to use this one incident as a crutch to cross examine you on all other situations. He should not be getting so hyper on you getting emails from a bloke thats a friend in the first place. If I had a bf checking to see whose email I did or did not receive, I would be cautious about him.
But if your bf reacts to this one incident (i.e, breaks up with you or puts you on the 'need-to-watch' suspicious list) then it would go to show his insecurity and immaturity. If I were him I would base my feelings and reaction on much more than this one incident.
If he does not trust you then maybe its the boyfriend you need to lose, not the friend.
2006-10-04 21:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does count. Tell him you were scared when he asked him that out of the blue and blurted out a lie and know you were wrong to do so. Tell him "there's nothing going on-I just forward jokes, etc.". He could be in cahoots with the other guy who is reporting on you, too. Tell him, if it would make him feel better, you will NEVER do it again - then don't. But if he still gives you the business, maybe he's not the right guy for you. If they were innocent, that is. If they were provacative, or if you bashed HIM to the other guy, you might have more of a problem. If they WERE innocent, and he still gives you a hard time, again, he might not be the right guy. And how did he find out about the other ones in the first place? Somebody told him. Tell him the other guy is on your "buddy list" and you just copied him inadvertently. I'm rambling - it's 4:00 am here. Sorry. Good luck!
2006-10-04 21:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mamma the first step is to admitt that you were wrong and explain how the situation happened but make sure that you set up a special evening just for the two of you when you give your explination meaning set up a romantic evening for you two starting with a invitation in the mail inviting him to a certain destination wheather it's your house or a a motel were ever you feel comfortable being romantic then thats where the apology and confession once more comes in after converstion love on him like you say you do and make him feel like you are sorry and want to still be with him. If he rejects your invitation sit back and let him come to you if you love something let it go if it comes back it's yours if it doesn't it never was . Good Luck mamma kisses.
2006-10-04 21:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by bonifiedelegance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust once lost is hard to get back from a person. Unfortunately I don't have any advice to give you to make him trust you again. All I can tell you is it takes time. I will tell you this don't you let him make you pay for your mistake for a long period of time. If your the love of his life he will forgive you and he will leave it alone. Now, if he (when ever you to have a disagreement) bring it up all the time. Get out because he will hold that against you and every time he messes up he will use this incident as an excuse to mess up.
2006-10-04 21:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing trust could be a disaster. But there is no love in this world without misunderstanding or quarrel. One thing is for sure that your bf loves you a lot. And he will definitely speak to you again. The best thing to do would be forget the whole episode itself. Never remind of this episode again when you meet him. Even if he tries to avoid you just be very normal and discuss something that would interests you both. It will take some time for him to forget the thing. Just keep yourself in his place and you would realize the pain. But this is not the end. He loves you and he would definitely be yours. REMEMBER NEVER EVENR SPEAK ABOUT THE EPISODE AGAIN FOR ANY REASON.
2006-10-04 21:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by vlikeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him you are sorry, that it was an honest mistake and that you would never jeopardise your relationship. Tell him you have deleted this "other males" email address from your address book AND actually do it. Don't kiss his feet too much if he does not understand that it was a misunderstanding, then he is not mature enough for you.......let him go and move on. Life is too short and there is someone better out there waiting for you.
2006-10-04 21:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you thought that piece of e-mail was just too irrelevant to even bother with it until you opened it and sent it to him the same time. Plus that you will keep your e-mail more tidy in the future and not let the e-mails build up.
Sound Good?
2006-10-04 21:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by LVieau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him, the way you said to us,
tell him that why you sent the email to him, just because, you are trying to tell him about the email, that you don`t want to loose him. you are trying to be honest.
you are not interested w/ the email that's why you forgot it.
extra careful next time. and stop mailing, remove Ur PC now. to make him satisfy.
2006-10-04 21:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by plinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have lied to him, go give him some head hell be ok. just walk out and do it. always worked for me when my ex's cheated or something, only worked for a littl while though so you gotta keep doing it. better than trust its lust the new sensation.
2006-10-04 21:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship should be based on faith and trust... if it does not have any foundation then there is no point of keeping this relations.
2006-10-04 21:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋