Ive known this girl at my college for over a week, Im a relativley attractive 20 y/o guy, but confidence sometimes lets me down.
Basically, in the first few days of knowing her, she showed interest, eye flirting, smiling lots, and sitting next to me at every opportunity.
I sent her a Text message yesterday which she didnt reply back too which now has me concerned, asking if she would like to meet up for a drink ( i should have done it in person, i made a mistake, but that shouldnt ruin my chances completely, right?)
I saw her today, and she didnt seem normal around me, I approached her at the same time as one of her girl friends, she was joking with her friend about giving her number to all the "good looking fellas" in her lecture.
Either this girl isn't worth the effort, or she is trying to make me jealous, i dont know. I just hope i havnt screwed up my one opportuinity of getting to know her better, by rushing in early (i may have looked desperate although im not!) Thanks guys!!!
2006-10-04 21:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just approach her and talk to her, explain your situation, apologize for whatever she found offensive about your message...if she doesnt understand, then she is not worth your attention.
2006-10-04 21:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not so bad. Unless you do some really horrible things to turn them off or something very heroic so they all want to like you, usually whether a young woman likes you or not is entirely up to her and nothing you can do about it other than keeping up at being yourself.
Also keep in mind that sometimes a woman is shy or is in a situation (have a boyfriend already or just got out of a relationship) and not ready to respond to new interests. You need to still show interest but don't pressure or stalk her.
2006-10-04 21:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by justdennis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yuh, you did.
So what?
Until your confidence level raises a notch,
I'd move on though Joe...
Just focus on your studies and a girl you like, who likes you, will appear, almost 'magically', and you'll be amazed that 'she was there - right in front of your eyes - the whole time!'
(which is a lot easier to recognize than one 'being behind me!')
And stop using Ask Yahoo about chick stuff...
Get into THAT yourself... Find out this stuff for yourself.
Just remember, be respectful and 'No' means NEVER seeing that b*tch again -
Now beat it!
2006-10-04 21:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Number1son 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Step back and show no more interest and see what she does. If she does nothing then let it go. If she starts being flirty again make sure its that and not just being friendly. You might be able to start over and ask her if she would like to do something in a group some of your friends and some of hers(have a party and ask her in person).
2006-10-04 21:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be up front and ask her directly if she did receive your text message. You will either discover that she did and doesnt want to have a drink with you or that she didnt get it and in that case you can ask her in person. It is better to find out the truth of the matter than wonder.
2006-10-04 21:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me that she is interested but she is shy about it and covering it up in braggery that she gives her number to everyone. I'd say, stay tuned to her till you find out more. But be ready to move on. No, I don't think you screwed up big by texting. Asking in person would have been better, but wouldn't make the whole world of the difference.
2006-10-04 21:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry she is just playing hard to get so that she won't look desperate. By her saying that she gave it to all the cute guys so that you can hear is basically a hint that you should step up your game. I would suggest that you ask her to have lunch with you sometime. And then you guys can take things from there. Best of luck amigo.
2006-10-04 21:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ah the games we play at uni, or in life really.
hey dude, don't text to ask her out (you realised that was a mistake, good). now go up to her and ask her out. don't fret about anything or anyone else, coz she'll either say yes or no (personally i think you're in strife is she says yes, coz you sound like you need a bit more confidence to be alone with her one on one, but hey give it a go and do your best).
you'll be fine and she'll appreciate you much more this way. enjoy ;-]
2006-10-04 21:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she enjoys a lot of attention, but does not want to be attached, or committed. I don't see anything wrong with what you did. I think that it would be best that you continue looking for the right one who's ready.
2006-10-04 21:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by 5482 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mate sit her down alone, have achat with her. Stop the txt mssg its cheap and words can be taken out of context or even have a different meaning depending how you read them. Talk to her from the heart and tell her exactly how you feel.
2006-10-04 21:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a step back mate it seems shes testing out all her options let her look around for awhile and i bet if you stop paying attention to her she will coming looking for you soon enough.
2006-10-04 21:07:51 · answer #11 · answered by ms sensible 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋