grandparents have looked after child since she was a baby while both parents worked. mother and father have now split up and mother is trying to stop grandparents from seeing their grandchild.
can she do this?
2006-10-04 20:52:42 · 27 answers · asked by bit of fluff 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
in England
2006-10-04 20:59:23 · update #1
in england there IS a law stating grandparents have rights, the can have access to their grandchild, sadly not as much as they might like but the courts DO recognise that its not just the parents who are important in the life of a child, extended family is too....and before anyone casts any stone, it serves to know both sides of this story, I have children from two marriages, the first was extremely abusive and the courts stopped th father from having any contact due to the violence, I specifically asked that his parents have contact and their answer was that if I didn't stay married and 'put up with the necessary' then they had no interest in the children...in my second (failed) marriage, which was mutually ended, he was granted access and didn't want it and his parents tried to abduct my son and as a result ALL access was denied...each and every story is different and each side believes they are in the right ...the most important thing is that the child has a large circle of family and friends who love him/her and the courts will take the childs side, not the parents/others...good luck to the child
2006-10-04 21:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by pinkerfluffierbadger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not sure about other states or countries. But I know for almost 100% that Texas is not a "grandparent state" Unless the grandparents had the child with them more than the parents. Like my ex sister in law for example. If her and her husband get divorced, she will loose the baby because the grandparents had her daughter 6 out of 7 days a week. She pretty much lived with the grandparents and just went to her mom and dads house on Sunday. It's sad. But I know that here they don't really have rights unless one parent is proved "UN fit" and the one who has custody ( if that's not the grandparents in questions own child) then they can fight for rights to see the child. But in my situation, I let my son see his grandparents because it's only fair to him, and that's the only one I care about. I don't do it for them. Now when my son gets old enough and if he doesn't want to go there I won't make him.
2006-10-04 21:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by heather_21_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the Grand Parents go to the court "She CANT" they can always ask for the visitation rights of the kids... Good news to you is there had being a sensational case in India where one of the Top government official in one of that States of India has takena custody of the baby girl aged 7 yrs .. The Official who is the grand father of this child took the custody saying that both the father and mother work and they are not capable to take care of the child and that he had being taking care since 2 yrs .. The converstaion between the grandparent the fathe and mother of the kid was shown live on one of the TV channels too..
FYI
The Indian Law related to the custody and visitation of the minors are derived from the UK law so it should be more or less same I think
2006-10-04 21:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this big thing about grandparents rights & my friend almost went through it with her mother as she was a spiteful woman who was poisioning her children against their father because SHE didn't like him, not cos he was a bad parent!
It depends what has happened really, if there has been nasty talk in front of the children or arguments etc I think she's got a right to stop contact but if it was for no particular reason & only because they split up then if it went to court the grandparents would probably get access!
2006-10-05 00:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I think she can stop the grandparents seeing the child unless the grandparents take the mother to court for visitation rights.
Morally it's a different story, it's not fair on the child or the grandparents to deny the rights of visitation.
2006-10-04 20:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she can't, well I mean the grandparents could go to the family Law Court, and there is a new legislation in now re grandparents- which give grandparnets the right to see there grand children, when mamaies and dadies have seperated.
I think any mother or father who would stop there children seeing there grandparent is morally wrong and are only thinking of themselves.
2006-10-05 01:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i think its very selfish of her to put her feeling First and not the childrens.
I would sit down and have a conversation with her, no shouting etc. Just simple say ' i know we have our differences and me and you cant work things out, but really why should the children suffer in this. Me and you are no longer together so there is some suffering already taking place. Lets not let suffering manifest into something bigger when it does not need to happen.
Just say your parents would love to see them and you are sure the children miss them too.. leave it like that and hopefully she will contact u in a view days..
Does she come from a big family. IF she has no family, she could in effect be cutting her own nose of to spite her face! which is silly because at some point she will need a break.
good luck i hope it all works out for you
2006-10-04 21:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in uk as a whole the answer is yes she can but why for the life of me would she want too unless of course its to spite the ex if that is the case then its she the grandparents and most importantly the child who will suffer if you know her do the best to get her to think again i know breaking up can be painfull been there as most adults nowadays have you have to put the children first or it will ruin their way of life more than it already has been with the break up they could end up being the rock you need as you get on with your life but if they are the problem and sometimes in-laws can be then im with you to an extent but if they are trying to interfear with how you bring your kids up or turn them against you then its the only course you can take sadly i just hope you can all work things out satisfactorally if not there will be a lot of losers hope this helps you to think a bit better
2006-10-04 21:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she has split up from the father does not give anyone the right not to allow the grandchildren to see their grandparents, especially as you say they have brought the child up. Think of the heart break and pain it will cause to grandparents and child.
2006-10-04 20:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the law, visitation must be what is best for the child. If it is in the childs best interests to see the grandparents then the law will side with them.
Grandparents do have the right to sue for visitation. But it would be much better if they can work something out without having to go to court which will be expensive and will take time.
2006-10-04 21:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋