If you go down on your partner would you want the favor to be return?

Question

Sometimes do you feel like your partner abuse you? like you go down on her and she likes that was great and just cary one to the next phase of love making and ignore the fact you need the same satisfaction. and how can you approach her with that?

Answer 1

stop doing it..when she asks you for it just tell her :"eye for an eye..." she should get the point!

Answer 2

Make going down on you as pleasurable as possible for her. Many guys don't think of simple things like showering beforehand or get a death grip on her head so it's all a woman can do to keep from gagging and puking on you. Other guys just stare straight ahead looking bored out of their mind until the last second. Oral sex should be a pleasure on both sides. I enjoy giving head if the guy is clean and lets me control the action and shows a little appreciation. Don't expect her to keep it up forever. Some of us have jaws that don't open far and tire easily. I always need the dentist to pry my mouth open just so he can even see inside, so you can imagine how hard it can be getting a large penis in. It's worth it for me but the guy has to be patient. If she does do it, thank her and reward her in some small way. Eventually she may enjoy it enough to initiate oral play on her own.

Answer 3

let's face the fact. most of the women, when it comes into sex they're so naive or at least pretend to be. the problem is, men almost always treat women like porn stars who gives the idea that most women would love and ready to give blow jobs.

men must realize that lovemaking (that is sex with your partner with whom you have emotional connection) is far different from having sex with anyone you doesn't have anything to do with, except for satisfying your lust.

now, let's go the point. you sow what you reap. but it doesn't mean you instantly sow after you reaped. the key here is communication. you should communicate to your partner how do you want to be treated, what other positions you want to experiment with, etc. don't just shove her mouth into your thing. it will just reinforced the repulsion. talk her into it, guide her if it is needed and then you will realize that she will be more than willing to do it.

women sometimes doesn't like the taste/smell of men's juice, so eat a lot of apples and avoid spicy foods. women are also afraid of asphaxia, so don't push their head hard. if you must push, you must also pull. the mouth is not the vagina, and their anatomical architecture is different. if you really want to shove it down to the fullest, find the most comfortable position for her. it doesn't mean she must always kneel infront of you. she can lie down and you sit into her face while shoving your thing. or you can lie down and let her do it on her own.

while we are talking about comfort, you must also realize that muscles in our jaws tires easily, that's why when you eat and you chew a hard meat you would rather spit it than continue digesting it in your mouth. so if you have a hard-on that last for hours, you should realize that a 1hour oral performance without rest is nearly impossible. if you see them being done in your porn movies, it is because they were edited to give you the illusion of it.

good luck!

Answer 4

Communication is key here... Bring up the subject of the two of you having sex.. keep your emotions at bay.. as in don't let her think it bothers you just yet. First just see where she stands and how she feels about oral foreplay. Tell her how much you love when she does it... tell her how much you like doing that to her too. Or maybe you could even take it as a compliment... she enjoys you going down on her so much that she just wants to go straight into love making!!! Maybe you should let her go down on you first?

Answer 5

I think this is one of those times when communication upfront is paramount, and body language during the act helps. You shouldn't do "favors" just to expect the favor to be returned. It houldn't be "if I do this to you, then you need to do this to me" That's really uncool. However it could be something like, "If I do this for you this time, then maybe next time or the time after that you could do that for me" Right?

Answer 6

Are you simple? She does that 1st, I have always done it first then got him to return the favour. It should be part of the foreplay to get things going. You have fot to start dictating the way things are going or you will end up a complete wimp...Honestly sometimes I wonder about the youth of today!

Answer 7

yeah i would want her to respond to be honest.

but some people just don't like going down. i had one girlfriend who did everything for the first couple of weeks, but then one day i blew on her chest and she freaked out. this was new, so we chatted and she admitted she liked 'vanilla' sex and didn't get off on messy sex. i told her what i liked and that i loved her going down on me and she agreed to do that as long as i didn't come in her mouth (no probs with that).

it's all about communication dude and you've got to be open and honest, but also listen and not judge her when she says how she feels about things.

Answer 8

I told my gf if she wants me to go down on her, she has to do me first starting from the next time we meet. She did....reluctantly. All I got was a half-assed *******. She just did the head. The shaft got no love. :(

Answer 9

I almost always give my man oral pleasure and he doesn't go down on me. But I ask him if he will and sometimes he will. So i would just ask your partner. I mean what will happen... she will stop giving you the oral you aren't getting?! haha

Answer 10

If this is Sex Line in Category of Relationship , I say I want what I want and just do for me.

Answer 11

Say it. If you're doing it to get it in return it's not giving, it's an investment. Many investment get poor returns.