we were both at fault for arguing but she took it too far. when it probably could have been resolved fairly easily she resorted to names i wouldn't call someone i hate, let alone someone i love. now she is getting married and is acting offended that i am not attending. I feel like i am constanly forgiving and forgetting when her tantrums get out of control, and i am tired of her drama. am i wrong to not go to her wedding, or is it ok for me to finaly take a stand?
2006-10-04 20:27:06 · 13 answers · asked by rcmc1228 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont know if right or wrong. Be prepared to have it thrown in your face the rest of your life everytime you fight with her. Just giving her more amunitian. Whatever you do good luck.
2006-10-04 20:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what she called you, no matter what she said of didn't say, she is your sister and she loves you. People say things that are awful but in the end she is not some person that you can just write off... she is your family. Im not saying to forgive her, because maybe she doesnt deserve your forgiveness. But you need to tell her how you feel. AND even if she doesn't apologize you should still attend her wedding.
Marriage is a very special day for a woman, and no matter what you are mad at her for right now, years from now when you have reconciled you will feel sad knowing that you never got to be a part of probably the biggest moment in her life.
Kiss and make up even if it just for the wedding.. but be there.
2006-10-04 20:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you not going to prove a point or just because there is no way you can go? If there is no way you can go, you will just have to deal with her later...but if you are trying to prove a point, it's not a good idea to do it on her weddding day. If you love her and can go, you should...it's too late to be against it and that won't make her change her mind anyway. You are ruining what is supposed to be "her day" as little as you think of it.
I hate my little sister's fiance and I am trying to talk her out of it but when it comes down to the day, I will be there. He is a pig and a horrible father but I will be there for her and just hope she see's the light someday.
If this is the case, don't make a stand on her wedding day...she will come around or not but she will always be your sister.
I was the only one who gave him a chance and he didn't do what he should have and she knows it since she told me that I am the only one who didn't judge him. And she knows where I stand now and it's up to her to decide. She is over 18 and I can't make her decisions for her, all I can do is tell her how I feel and my concerns and be there for her. That is what sisters do, and unfortunatly it doesn't always work out for us, but we are there and sometimes we have to help pick up the pieces. It's just something we do when we love someone.
Your story may be very different but I hope I offered some help. Take care.
2006-10-04 20:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with standing your ground but in life you have to pick and choose your battles carefully. I grew up an only child and even when I was younger I knew I wanted at least two kids because I would often think about when I lost my parents I would have to face it alone, there would be no one to share my feelings. I gave birth to two boys and adopted another. Now as a parent I know when my boys lose me here on this earth, they will not only share the pain and get through it together. But they will have each other to turn to when they need someone. I can understand your hurt but is it worth losing the one person in the world that you should always have in your life. Good luck and look deep in your heart for the right answer.
2006-10-04 20:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am right there with you sister! My sis drinks too much and says hateful things to me, half of the time she doesn't remember them and it's up to me to suck it up and be the bigger person. Frankly I am sick of it. And then even when she's sober, it's like she's so competitive with me that she can't stand any success I have and resents everything I do that appears to be good. Personally, I have given up on her. But (and this is a big but!) who all is going to be affected by your decision? Is it going to hurt your parents? Do you or her have kids that are cousins that shouldn't be dragged into this mess? Do you have other siblings that this will affect? Look at the big picture and if the only parties affected by your boycotting the wedding are you and her, then take your stand. If it's going to create disharmony in your family, it'll be you that gets blamed (for NOT going to the wedding) I wish there were clear cut answers for siblings that act like asse**s. Good luck, my friend!
2006-10-04 20:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I would've left her azz alone a long time ago. You are a great person to keep forgiving and forgetting the things that your sister does. All I can tell you is follow your heart.
2006-10-04 20:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by peach49444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap, you are so wrong! The reason she's fought is b'coz she wanted you to attend her wedding so much coz' she love you so much but you refused to go. So sad!
Siblings won't fought without any reason. But trust me it won't last long.
Give her a hug and attend her wedding.
Good luck and enjoy!
2006-10-04 20:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her wedding anyway. Be the mature one... Write her a note telling her how offended you were at what she called you...
2006-10-04 20:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man! Do go the marriage, 'cause your dear sis is leaving you guys and would be separated. It would certainly not serve any purpose whatsoever if you skip her marriage. You will really enjoy it.
2006-10-04 21:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by helloall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really ur personal matter and I think u should not ask it here. You may hurt here.
But from my side forgive all past and attend her merriage and make her happy.
2006-10-04 20:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋