This could be your parents' parenting style, your friends, a traumatic experience, a good experience, etc... How has all of this shaped your personality and who you are as an adult?
2006-10-04 19:29:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Great question. My life was shaped by my mom and not in a positive way. My whole life she always moved us around from place to place. She was never around and was very angry all the time. When I first got on my own, I constantly moved around with out even realizing I was doing what she had done. I was very bitter at a lot of things. I tend to back out of relationships because I'm not available. This is sad how it affected everything I did. I also had a huge problem with being alone because she was always gone. thank god I recognized I didn't want to be like her and have had lots of counseling. I'm now happy, settled in one spot, and in college and also can hold a relationship. People can break cycles if they want it bad enough.
2006-10-04 19:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised by very loving parents who encouraged me to live up to my full potential and do my best. My family also are strong Christians. It was very good that they encouraged me to do my best, since I am totally blind. I am also very thankful for their Christian faith. I have made that faith my own. Of course, there is a down side to some of this. When I don't meet the expectations I think they have for me, I can tend to feel unhappy with my life. Sometimes, I set expectations for myself that are unrealistic. It is difficult being totally blind and seeking to live and compete in a sighted world. (For instance, I use screen reading and voice synthesizer software to receive email and use the Internet, etc.) Also, because of the love I experienced growing up, I think I need close relationships more and more as I get older. Fortunately, I have a wonderful relationship with my wife; but I guess I want to feel that I am part of a circle of love with people who will always be there for me. Maybe this is also affected by the fact that I am an only child, and my wife and I have no children.
2006-10-06 21:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dogality 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Hard to narrow it down, but I'll go with this: When I was 8 years old, I was playing youth baseball. I got caught looking at a called 3rd strike for the 3rd out of that inning. I slammed my helmet down on the ground, slung my bat towards the dugout and said something (I don't remember what) to the ump as I walked away. I got to the dugout, put on my cap and glove, and turned to head out to take my place in the field. Dad was standing at the door of the dugout and said, "Where are you going?" I said, "I'm going out to 2nd base." He said, "No you're not boy, you're going home." I'm not sure when the beating began, but my butt was "unsittable" for a VERY long time. When Dad regained his composure, he explained to me that he wouldn't tolerate that kind of behavior, and gave me the choice to quit, or play without showing my a$$. I told him I wanted to play, so he let me play again, THE FOLLOWING SEASON. Worse still, he continued to take me to all my team's games that season, and made me sit next to him in the stands and watch. That was painful. I wanted to play SOOOOOOO badly. But (you can guess how the story ends) I started back playing the next year, and played organized baseball till I was 16, and I NEVER lost my temper or showed-out again. Today, I CAN'T STAND seeing an athlete act like a big baby when things don't go their way. Sometimes I wish my dad had been THEIR dad, and maybe he could have taught them a valuable lesson about being a good sport, win or lose.
2006-10-04 19:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by dgindiansfan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything that happened to me as a child, including every experience, and every interaction, every decision and every consequence has shaped me into whom I am today, including those things which transpired passed childhood.
We continue to be shaped by our experience's, interactions, decisions, and consequences constantly so long as our minds remain open regardless of childhood
It is only with respect to close mindedness when behavioral shaping has solidified, and thus the saying that you cannot teach a old dog new tricks.
Therefore the things which have shaped me are many, and to numerous to mention here, and it is my sincere hope that I continue to grow, and learn up until my time on earth is no more.
The body ages and grows old, however you have with in yourself the ability to keep your child self alive and vibrant with in your mind, and that choice is up to each of us.
2006-10-04 20:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Thoughtfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The life and times of Mickey Mantle had a great impact upon me as youngster who always tried and always failed.
Mantle had the ability to play baseball through enormous physical pain. He played baseball like only 'The Mick' could play the game. When I sprained an ankle, I realized that was no excuse to stop trying. Until this day, I always try my best regardless of the odds or circumstances, just like Mickey Mantle.
Great inspiration.
2006-10-04 19:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RESPONSIBILITY - As a young girl I had to work at 16 and finish my schooling, provide for my family and try to get into college.
Luckily for me I SUCCEEDED - Looking back 10 years ago i will defnitely do it again.
As i do not come from a rich background I know appreciate every little thing small and big - Financially i'm succesfull.
At the moment I'm reaping all the rewards of all the sacrifices i had to do back then - and all my responsibilities paid of at the end i geuss.
2006-10-04 19:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by MERCAYDEES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually molested from the ages of 6-12 by my aunt's boyfriend, now husband. At the age of 40 I still feel uncomfortable when my husband touches me early in the morning. I love my husband's touch. But I still cannot forget the foreign adult fingers on my young pre-teen body. It is a horrrible, disgusting way to live. The early abuse never goes away.
2006-10-04 19:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Gina N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could write a book on this. How I grew up has very much to do with how I am today. Not to get into details, but its made me stronger and more motivated. Yet on the down side I have a big trusting issue with everyone.
2006-10-04 19:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by BIB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents splitting up, my Dad raising us, me being the oldest having to assume the parent role with house keeping, cooking and taking care of my little brother and sisters. I was only 11 at the time. Responsibility came fast.
2006-10-04 19:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Eldude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from humble backgrounds, I've learned to become very empathetic as well as approach problems in a Socratic method. First analyzing situation first in the other persons perspective to formulate a greater answer or decision. Has also made me very community oriented.
2006-10-04 19:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by fierce_guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋