I lost my virginity to my boyfriend who I love, six months ago. We have sex almost everyday, I am a little worried because I never been even close in feeling an orgasm. Is that normal????
2006-10-04 19:19:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Soooooooooo many girls feel this. It's because your boyfriends either very bad at sex, or your one of the girls who takes longer to get done with.
Any girl can experience orgasm. Many don't because their partners don't know what the hell their doing. Or at least think they do haha.
Practice makes perfect. most important thing to do is STOP HAVING SEX EVERY DAY. That's gunna make it so ruitine that it'll suck. Also, be verbal and tell him what feels good. No ones a mind reader. He's gunna finish regardless of what you feel, so let him know and make him work for it!!!
2006-10-04 19:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lord of the Apocalypse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I rarely had orgasms when I first started having sex at 19. In fact, now that I think about it as i type, I didn't have an orgasm until I met my husband, my boyfriend at the time. Sometimes, orgasms are physical (because they are chemical) and they can also be connected to emotions. I have the best orgasms when we havn't done it in a while because he goes away for weeks at a time to train for the military, and I miss him so much that my body is in tune with it. I hope I helped!!!
2006-10-05 02:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by afafae25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to have your BF focus completely on you to try to get to that point? Try a vibrator and see if that makes it better. Sometimes (guys...don't take this the wrong way please!) when guys first start out and don't have a lot of experience...it may not last long enough for you to get to the point of no return or they just may not be well versed enough to know what to do for you. Get some books, you and he can learn together. I've been married 24 years and the sex just gets better as you grow with each other and learn what makes the other tick. Practice is the key...try not to worry about it. Just relax and have fun! I think it will happen. Good luck.
2006-10-05 02:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by buddhafuldreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal. I went through that problem too. Best idea I can give you is to stimulate yourself. Touch yourself and explore your likes and what gets you turned on. It is completely normal. You can either use your fingers or use a vibrator. What ever is your personal preference. Explore your body, because you are the only one that knows your own body. You'll find the secrets hidden to what you like and what makes you feel good. Than sit him down and explain to him what you like. Be submissive to him and just enjoy. Another good thing is try to watch a porno video with your boyfriend and have lots of foreplay, I know thats what gets me going, hehe.
2006-10-05 02:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After six months somehow you have to have an orgasm.
Try to talk to your guy and try out new things like different styles and different positions.
Try to watch some porn together and try not to take each others clothing of try to resist temptationa and once both of you cant handle it - rip each others clothes of and have wild sex that should give a good orgasm
good luck
ps: that usually works for me
2006-10-05 02:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by MERCAYDEES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might having them and you haven't get to know your body yet ...tell your boyfriend to explore yourself so you can see what parts in your body are sensitive .....that could be a link to exitement and then an orgasm....you must be ok emmotionally ok and not feel guilty for anything you are doing...you must focus on what you are doing.....sex it is in your mind...there's different types of orgasms not all feels the same ....and by exploring with your boyfriend you will discover so much with and him as well
2006-10-05 02:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some women never achieve the ultimate climax. Some of us can reach it multiple times every session. Trust me, you will know when it happens and you will beg for it again and again.
Hint: try more foreplay before engaging in the actual deed. The more turned on you are the easier it is to climax to the max!
Happy hunting!
2006-10-05 02:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do is pick up a cosmo magazine, and learn how to bring yourself to orgasm. That way you learn what you like. Also being comfortable with your man is a big part of sexual pleasure.
2006-10-05 02:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by sugasofly85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah its completely normal! masturbation is the key hun...once you know what you like you can instruct him. Dont be afraid to tell him what you like! some girls never in their lifetime experience an orgasm during sex, i very rarely do, the foreplay is when i get my fun! for me its repetition e.g. he needs to keep at the one thing he is doing on my clit and not change it to much otherwise it will take me too long...email me if you any other questions.
2006-10-05 02:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just having the bang bang instant kind of sex - robot like. Maybe you just get aroused just because it is sex but do not feel the love or romance of it. Maybe no foreplay. No real passion. Maybe you're just doing it too often that it's already just a scheduled activity. Maybe, just maybe both of you probably not meant for each other.
2006-10-05 02:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by ang-pogi-ko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋