i need toddler advice!?

Question

ok i seriously need toddler advice i ony have one son and he is 2 years old and god he is a handful he mibehaves and throws his fits and does not listen i have tried talking to him at his eye level, telling him what he did wrong, putting him on time out,,, and even to the point of spanking him and he still keeps on misbehaving! he talks back and tell me to shut up and i don't know what to try anymore please tell me this is not going to last forever!and is there any way that i can teach him what is right from wrong?

Answer 1

Sounds like time for Super Nanny. Everytime my son "he's almost 3" starts having a hissy fit I tell him to go to his room if he tells me no and runs into a different room such as the living room I get up and I drag his little butt to his room and I tell him not to come out until he's done with his fit. They usually only last a min. or two but if I let him stay in the room I'm in they last forever. I've noticed if he doesn't have an audience then he doesn't do it. Another thing if you say YOUR going to do something then you MUST stick to it. Example if you don't stop banging your toys together mommy's going to take them from you well if he doesn't stop take the darn things he will learn sooner or later if you stick by what you say your going to do then mommy means business.

Answer 2

He's going to misbehave, he's a 2 year old. What works for my daughter is time outs in her room, or if we're in public we go to the car or to the restroom for timeout, or we just go home if she can't straighten up.

Don't tolerate "shut up" from him (and don't say it to him either). It's disrespectful and you should snap him into time out right away for it!

When he throws fits *do not give in!* Just make sure he's in a safe place (preferably on carpet), tell him to stop the fit and give him his space. When he sees the fit isn't working he'll stop. When he's done tell him it's time to act like a big boy. My daughter throws more fits when she's tired so I try to put her down at the same time each afternoon.

Answer 3

Well, he is two! I can't believe you allow him to tell you to shut up...that must be something he hears in the house...maybe someone telling him to shut up! Kids learn from their environment. As far as him misbehaving, he is 2 and it will continue...not forever...but it will. It's called the terrible two's and goes on for a year or so (at least with mine it did). Just keep consistency and when he does something not acceptable, then put him in time out. When he talks back to you, simply tell him we don't talk back in this family...and put him in time out...or slightly smack his mouth...not hard, but just to make him understand what "talking back" means.

Answer 4

I have a three year old daughter and she is a handful. Although a bit older than your boy, she sometimes responds well to me telling her how I feel, that she is making me feel sad by her behaviour. It doesn't always work, especially if she is too hyped but I am sometimes pleasantly surprised. I also notice a huge difference in her behaviour if I spend extra time with her doing things she wants to do. The house goes to ruin but so what? She is more important than having a perfect house.
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Answer 5

Honey, don't forget that you are the parent and he is the child. Explain to him that you will not except that type of behavior. Every time he does it place him in time out for 2 minutes. It is a lifetime for a child that age and he will soon get the concept that if I do this I have to sit there "FOREVER" without getting to play.Continue to enforce that this is not nice and makes mommy very sad. Children naturally want to please and be praised from their parents.When he is behaving appropriately make sure that he is praised and rewarded for this also. He'll get the picture. If I am a good boy,mommy likes that and I don't want to upset mom.

Answer 6

Oh boy do I ever understand your situation I have a 2 year old son as well and on top of it to make things a littl more difficult to handle I have a 1 month old baby girl. I use what is called the 123 magic program my child development specialst recommends it. I would be more then happy to explain it to you because it works with my two year old you can get ahold of me on yahoo messanger [e-mail]

Answer 7

Be consistent. Keep talking to him at eye level and don't let him know you are frustrated. Remain in a calm voice. If he knows you are frustrated he will keep on because he is getting to you. When he misbehaves give him 1 warning. Next send him to time out tell him why he is going. If he gets out keep putting him back until he remains there. When he gets out ask him to tell you why you had to put him in time out. Just don;t give up hang in there.

Answer 8

I know people will jump on me--but I also know from personal experience as well as observation this works. With a two year old the kind of spanking that works is one on his bare fanny. It does not have to be hard or prolonged--but two or three stings. If you do it consistently and each and every time you will be amazed.

Answer 9

i just want to say, my daughter is the same way. so no, you are not the only one with a little brat.lol and spanking and time out do not work with her either. we just keep telling her no, and making her stop whatever she is doing. after a while she moves on to a new "bad" activity. good luck. don't go crazy on the little guy, just lock yourself in the bathroom every now and then.

Answer 10

My almost-4-year old responds to when his favourite toys go up into the cupboard for 24 hours until he is on better behaviour. Everytime he misbehaves, extends their cupboard time for another 24 hours. But this approach depends on the kid - not all kids care, so your response to your kid has to be based on trial and error - as you have found out.