I have a question well I need advice about my boyfriends ex. I am 6 months pregnant with his child, but he has a son also by someone else. How can I not be so jeaulous of her and stop thinking that he is in love with her. He says that he never loved her and their son was not planned but our was. What does anyone think? How should I feel? What do I need to do?
2006-10-04 18:40:12 · 16 answers · asked by kmylander03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never had to deal with being pregnant, but being an ARMY wife, I'm surrounded by pregnant women. Do you think that maybe being pregnant and having your hormones out of whack is making you think irrationally? I wish I could give you more, put I hope I helped to put things into perspective. GOOD LUCK and CONGRADULATIONS ON YOUR BABY!!!!!
2006-10-04 18:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your child really planned? If yes, then you'll have to give your boyfriend some credit that he is really over the other girl -else he would be with her now instead of you. sure, it is normal to feel jealous and awful that your boyfriend also has a child with someone else, but there is nothing you can do about it at this point. You'll have to believe that your boyfriend loves you and only you and should not punish him for what he had done before he even met you
2006-10-04 18:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my books when a guy has a child with someone there is always a connection but not nearly as a good connection that you have with him keep the communication open with him on the subject but dont drive him or yourself nuts about it. You should feel glowing and beautiful you are having YOUR partners baby and you have a step son how much luckier can you be? Focus on the good stuff and enjoy treasured moments with your partner.
2006-10-04 18:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety I Know what it feels Like to be Jealous but think about it this Way! your Man always Comes Home to you so it should be the other girl that is Jealous! I think you should believe what he says unless hes going to her house at Night!
~Kimberly
2006-10-04 18:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to be jealous when your man has a child with his ex. This is a common jealousy because with he continues to have to see and hear from her because of their child. Be secure in that he has moved on and chosen you and your baby.
2006-10-04 18:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not supposed to be jealous with his son. whatever he says about him. he's just a poor child. the least you can do is teach him to love his son from his ex. so whatever happens, it won't be a karma to you. atleast you're teaching him good things and he can learn from you. and don't be jealouus with his ex because you have him now.
2006-10-04 18:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly hun, dont even worry about his ex.... if he did love her he would never have left her, and started a family with you!
wether you two girls like each other or not he is always going to have contact with their son, but he is with you and he wouldnt have planned a baby with you if he didnt love u.
just think about you, your baby, and your boyfriend and u will be happy.
its normal to be jealous, but theres no need to be
trust me i used to be really jealous of my fiance's ex even though they dont have childeren and it caused us to fight all the time.
2006-10-04 18:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consentrate on the fact that he is with you now and you are having the child he wanted enough to plan for.
2006-10-04 18:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you married? did you just found out that he has a kid?if you are married with him i think you have to accept the fact that he already had a son and that you should focus on you own family.
2006-10-04 18:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that marriage would solve you're doubts.if you love him and you trust him you should believe him,but think of this,that child is his and you know it from the beginning(right?) is normal to have feeling for THAT child,not for the mother,and if you are pregnant you shouldn't think of those things is not god for the baby!take care of you,you are important now!!!kisses and lots of hugs!!!! :)
2006-10-04 18:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by andreiutza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋