I've been talking to this women on and off for bout 2 months now,and I like her.Now the thing is she has been really really hurt before and she is really against men now.The thing is I want to show her i care for her and show her i'm a different type of guy she's been with.I want to show her without seem to persuasive without coming off to desperate but i do want to show her i want to be with her and give her something like she's never had,how can i do this without scaring her off?
2006-10-04 18:16:26 · 16 answers · asked by Big Baby Sweets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it slow -only your actions will show her that you are not like the others - nothing that you say could convince her because it sounds like she has been lied to before. The thing that I find sorts out the "cads" from the nice guys is whether they keep to their word - even in little things like calling at a time when you said you would. Also be consistent - don't run hot and cold.
2006-10-04 18:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should be consistently kind, gentle and caring with this woman and not push her too quickly. She is going to be so fortunate to have such a caring man as you. Be there for her; do small but meaningful things for her - it doesn't have to cost money at all! Write a poem, pick a flower, offer to do some stuff around the house that we women have trouble doing, etc. Slow and steady wins the race. Please be sincere in all that you do and say......be yourself. If she has been treated horribly before by men then the finest gift YOU can give her is the knowledge that she can trust you, depend on you, and that you cherish her. Good luck to you!
2006-10-05 01:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Royallady1947 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go slow. If she wants to make it speed up, she will. Don't fall into being overly obdient, this will make her take advantage of you. Be a strong man, don't pressure her. Start small, always remember Holidays, Birthdays, etc. Get her a small gift just for fun, don't do it all the time though. Show her that you care. Listen to her feelings, ask questions about her past that she's comfortable answering and learn what you shouldn't do. Most important of all, be the friend she never had.
2006-10-05 01:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Aliayh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a good and true friend, let her know you care about her, show her respect, and do not push a personal relationship right now. take time to know her better and give her time to relax around you, learn to trust you as a friend only, listen to her, when you tell her something, be honest, you must learn to be patient and if it is meant to be that you and her get together, it will happen. let her know you are there when ever she wants to talk, to listen to her and let her make the move in becoming a couple...
2006-10-05 01:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister went thru that and the first guy that really liked her she walked all over him. So he was out, but then the next guy didn't let her walk all over him and he told her straight out what he had to offer and the he was for real. Now their married living in a mansion and they give the best Xmas gifts. So tell it like it is...
2006-10-05 01:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by mensas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as usual, i disagree with space case. C'mon what guy has never used the "im differant than all the other guys" line to get laid. truth is you havent bagged this chick yet and your pullin out all the cards. sometimes you have to use this one ive done it before too. i suggest buying a puppy or something. then after you get in her pants put it in a pillow case and through it in a river.
2006-10-05 03:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the classic! Get a friend she doesnt know to stage a purse snatching and stop him and beat the crap out of him to get your purse back. Works like a charm!
2006-10-05 01:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by RichUnclePennybags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on ... Be a man for god sake...!
Do you really beleve in this "being there for her" crap and dont to tell me that you want to show her that you can get in toutch with your feminnen side?
Grow Up, they'r all the same and we will always be PIGS to them so what the heck.. OINK OINK ......
2006-10-05 01:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was that mistreated woman too, you tell her your true feelings and tell her you can wait until she is ready to love again, and you dont want to pressure her. plus very important do things that make her feel loved and special, ex. 1 rose, leave at her work before she gets there, which is cheap but sweet, dont ever flirt or check girls out in front of her BAD!!!
2006-10-05 01:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Celi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill sweets....let her know and then let her get to know the man that you are by watching how you operate both with her and with others. It may take time.....I feel her though and know that her cynicism will pass....just don't rush it.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 01:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by stillsweetp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋