me and my boyfriend have been dating for nearly 3 years, i am 20 (turning 21 in august) he is 19 (turning 20 in march), we have known each other since year 8 approx 14 years of age. we started going out in year 12 (2004). we now currently live togetther (and have been for the past year) we had a child (but miscarried) and i think i may be pregnant again (but thats a different story) he has proposed to me 3 or 4 times and he has taken it back. He says he loves me and wants to marry me one day. whats he scared of? commitmant? why? im not understanding. is there anything i can do to get him to do it a little quicker?
2006-10-04 17:46:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just want engagement, not marrage yet
2006-10-04 17:52:16 · update #1
i have tryed proposing and he thinks im joking and when i say im serious he just says "one day"
2006-10-04 17:53:07 · update #2
Possibly he's worried since u r older than him. Since women look older than their age he cd be worried. Another possibility is the responsibility he may hv if he's not yet settled down. You could raise the topic discreetly if you dont want to directly ask him or mention it as a friend's prob.
2006-10-04 17:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by archem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say it's better this way. Until you are both 100% sure it's what you want, you shouldn't get married. If he isn't marrying you yet than he is probably just second guessing himself. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want to marry you. It just means that he wants to be sure. Once you get married things can be alot harder if you two do start having problems. At this point it is alot easier to work out differences because there isn't as much pressure.
2006-10-05 00:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to be getting married at 21 and 20 hun i am engaged to be married and i have been that way for two years to the same man. don't rush it. if he wants to ask the question he will do it when he feels it is time don't force him to and don't rush it . it willhappen when the time is right and you know it
2006-10-05 00:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Da Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to do the proposing? Why don't you ask him to marry you? He is probably just not ready or doesn't really want to marry you after all.
2006-10-05 00:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by treasureisland85 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE JUST MAY NOT BE READY FOR MARRIAGE, SO DONT
RUSH IT, WHEN HE READY HE WILL ASK FOR YOUR
HAND, BUT IF YOU CONTINUE TO MAKE A ISSUE HE MAY
NOT. HE NOT SCARED OF COMMITMENT, YOU BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS. SO JUST HANG IN THERE
LOVE HIM AND BE THERE.
2006-10-05 00:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you should both sit down have heart to heart talk and ask him why he takes it back everytime. tell him you are ready to get things started.
2006-10-05 00:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by mitchell38954 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he prolly keeps taking it back cuz he's still young and prolly afraid to do that right now...i mean im not saying he doesnt love you but thats how guys r.
2006-10-05 00:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋