I have been seeing this guy for a while we dated when i was 18. he is now 35 and I am 21. He cheated on me in the past and i can see a definate change. But there is the age thing. It doesn't bother me. I have no clue y. Should it? Do you think we should try agian? He says he loves me and wants to marry me? He has never said that before. He also had a 9 yr old kid who loves me to dealth and i love him too.
2006-10-04 17:45:27 · 13 answers · asked by LIZZY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As to answer some of you yes I do love him. I really can't imagine my life without him. We talked last night for like 5 hrs. NO KIDDING. He saud that if i wanted to wait to have sex until marriage that is fine. No pushin. he doesn't want to get married right now but soon. I said the same thing. We both think it is a good idea to wait until i get my AAS in Automotive and my Como Licenxe before we get married. I want to be on my own for a while he said he will wait. He said i waited y couldn't he. He wants to go talk to our pastor. He has started going to church more and stopped going to bars. I think he has changed
2006-10-05 06:19:26 · update #1
he cheated once.. he will do it again.. age is not what you should be worried about!!
2006-10-04 17:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can see a person changing for the better, and I can see someone giving another a second chance. It's when the problem persists on a constant basis is when you have a grown concern. If you believe that he's changed for the better, and you believe that you've both worked through everything you could possibly work through, than I say go for it, but only if you're ready. You have to know that he's your best friend. Make sure all the important things in a relationship are there, like, honesty, love, trust, loyalty and he adores you completely, and don't forget a great friendship. Marriage is very important. Love is the base of all things strong. Don't go back and marry him because he says "I love you" and so forth, make sure it'll work this time. Take your time in the relationship and make sure the trust and honesty is there. With the age, it shouldn't bother you. If he loves you and you love him, that's all that should matter. The people outside of your relationship are only people that form opinions without actually knowing the true love and bond you share with one another. Besides, you shouldn't have to prove your love for millions of strangers. Just make sure you have common interests and it's okay to have dislikes. I know someone who is very close to me, marry a man that is 29 yrs. older than she is. She's fairly young in her 30's, and they have 3 beautiful kids together and they are happily in love, they've been married for about 12 or 13 yrs.. What matters is how he takes care of her and treats her and the love he offers her. That's what your boyfriend should do. Ultimately it comes down to how he treats you and cares for you and takes care of you. At least you've sustained yourself into loving his child, because that could be a tough thing for both sides.
2006-10-04 18:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you know it really depends on if you can really see yourself being together for the rest of your lives. He is considerably older than you and know that you may end up taking care of him when he is much older... Why did he cheat on you? Do you love him? Perhaps you should wait longer before getting married.. Thats cool that his son and you are close. But don't let that be a reason for you to marry him. Ultimately in the end you are the one deciding. Just follow what you think is right. Good luck.
2006-10-04 17:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you two worked through the cheating?If so have you gotten your life out of the way.I mean all the partying out of the way life's very different when kids are a main concern.If your sure about your life and the cheating is not a problem.Yes get married! Only if he's your best friend and you really love one another.
2006-10-04 17:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by jean l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you LOVE him? Do you see yourself never being ever to get over him? If so, you deserve to give yourself the chance to either be with him OR to get over him if things are not great this time either. I don't necessarily believe once a cheater, always. I actually had an affair myself and would NEVER do it again, no matter who or what! The age thing? Won't matter as much in 10 years either. If you're compatible, give it a chance! JUST BE CAUTIOUS and don't let your heart rule your head in regard to the cheating thing - just in case! Good luck!! I wish you love!
2006-10-04 17:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing more than a number. If you can see a change in him and want to be with him then I say go for it. Everybody deserves another chance if they have stepped up to their transgretions of the past. Good luck.
2006-10-04 17:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters never change no matter if they "swear to God on there life they will never do it again" well guess what they will...I think u need too stop seein this guy and find someone better...you deserve to be happy not heart broken all the time.
2006-10-04 18:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is tough, No if he cheated on you once, he'll do it again. Break it off. There is someone out there better for you. You'll find him eventually. You'll be so glad once you make the move to leave this guy. Good Luck
2006-10-04 17:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it. am 22 and my man is 40. bothers my family but not me. my man has a 12 year old daughter that i get along with just fine. if it's what u want then go for it. u will be just fine. good luck
2006-10-04 17:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by luhver 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your to young to marry,i know i married at your age. i think he just wants someone to raise his child. I'm sure he does love you but your way to young to marry.
2006-10-04 17:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by greg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart - but I truly think that once a cheater - always a cheater..
2006-10-04 17:47:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋