How do you stop being conflicted and angry with a man you love, when that person is unavailable?

Question

I dated someone long distance, and because of the way it ended, decided not to talk to him to try to get over it. However, I am still afraid to get close to other people since I am still hurt and angry with the ex. I have not talked to him, and I think if I did, it may prove to be more upsetting than helpful. What should I do to resolve this within myself and move on?

Answer 1

I think part of your problem is that you haven't grieved this previous long-distance relationship. I don't think you can move on until you come to terms with what went wrong and how you were hurt in this last attempt at intimacy. You're angry and conflicted because certain aspects of this prior quest are still unresolved and bothering you.

Maybe do some journaling and talk to a friend or, if need be, a professional about it.

Answer 2

It is hard, but you 're the only one hurting you at this point. If you find that you cannot stop this self-abuse cycle, maybe a couple of sessions with your friendly neighborhood shrink could help you sort things out.
But you can't turn off feelings like a light switch, so it's normal to take time to heal.
You'll get through it in your own time.

Answer 3

best is find ur self any other boyfriend and it will resolve all ur problems as when u will find ur love ur mind will be relaxed and instead on being upset on ur ex u will be thankful to him that u found another nice guy.........

Answer 4

THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN REALLY GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE
IS TO DEAL WITH WHAT REALLY THE CAUSE OF WHAT YOU
ARE GOING THROUGH, YOU NEED CLOSURE, AND YOU WILL NOT GET IT UNTIL YOU TALK TO HIM, OR WRITE
LETTER OR EMAIL, ETC. BUT YOU NEED TO GET EVERYTHING OUT. THEN YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTE
I BELEIVE AND THEN YOU CAN MOVE ON.

Answer 5

just move on