I fell hard for my neighbor, who is unattainable because of his religion. he said he is fighting and resisting falling for me, but since dating is a no-no in his church, there's no hope for us. My heart just aches for him. I can't seem to get over him. Will I ever?
2006-10-04 17:29:19 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he belongs to the Apostolic Christian Church. They don't date, they just marry when they feel it is God's will for them to do so..they feel God will lead them to their spouse
2006-10-04 18:06:23 · update #1
No, probably not. You will always wonder about what could have been, and you will always think of him when times get tough. You will, of course, move on. But you will never truly heal, or forget. Welcome to humanity, and take care for now.
2006-10-04 17:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be very, very difficult for you to get over him. In time, it will not be the main focus of your time but then there are things that may trigger a memory and you will be in turmoil again. It is really a very difficult situation. Another risk you may have is becoming involved with someone on the rebound.
Probably the best way to recover is to put all your effort and energy into school. Education is something that will never betray you. Read, memorize, concentrate on math and physics. Do anything academic to distract you from your broken emotions. As time passes you will get a little perspective and then those triggers will not jolt you back into the roller coaster of emotions.
In addition to healing emotionally, you will be a stronger person. You will know more of what you are looking for in a spouse. By focusing on your education, you will be better prepared for your future career and when money is not such an issue in a marriage, that is a great benefit.
2006-10-05 07:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out knowing his religion, I'm not sure how much help I can be.
It's hard to imagine any God that would willingly halt love. Considering the fact that most faiths are based on one great act of love or another. The only exception to this rule is Catholics, and that's only if he's going to be a priest. This is the only one I'm aware of, there are probably more.
But, that's not the issue. You will always remember him. That's a given. Anyone that can leave such an emotional impact is not easily forgotten. Will you get over him? Yes, with time. a lot of time and new experiences of your own, but yes. But you have to work at it.......
I still can't get around the idea of a faith that discourages love....
2006-10-05 00:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your broken little heart will heal. When you find someone better. No sense in crying over someone who is not willing to break a little rule like dating for you. Think about it, would you break a rule for him? 'Cause if I liked someone that much and some religious rule says I can't I'm out of the church. They can't give me what I need in life. Look for someone out side the church thing.. Get yourself a bad sinister boy.
2006-10-05 00:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look why dont you sit down with this friend and find common points of agreement.Try to see if there is any possibility of a union.If none exists then I recommend you to just move somewhere else or to busy yourself with family,friends,prayers,another relationship.Have faith in God.Time and prayers have a wonderful healing effect.If you cant get over the pain still seek help.
2006-10-05 00:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time erases and heals a lot of things and one day, your broken heart will be but a blur in your past.
2006-10-05 00:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by He Coon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will. I know right now that when you think of your life without him it sometimes feel like you cant brethe and every song/nice word reminds you of him, but one day you will wake up and realise that you are over him. It wont be easy but it will happen.
2006-10-05 00:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your first love? First loves are supremely hard to get over...I still hurt from mine. However, you will gain maturity and life experience from this so embrace it as another journey on your road of breathing.
2006-10-05 00:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by KayK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a point in time where your gonna look back at this and maybe laugh. so broken do heal it just takes time.
2006-10-05 00:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shademediumdeep3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being neighbors.....thats going to be tough until you meet someone else. And you should start working on that ASAP.
2006-10-05 00:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋