How can we stop her?And why is she doing this ? She is 2 , has a brother that's 4 and a sister that's 1.She leaves marks so she is really biting hard.
2006-10-04 17:25:03 · 11 answers · asked by don_steele54 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to seek professional help for her.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 17:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be numerous reasons for this behavior. Children unable to handle stresses can sometimes cause harm to themselves to give themselves something to focus on that supercedes the stressor.
It can also be a way of drawing attention. Say she gets in trouble for something and is being confronted or punished for the action. Perhaps she has learned that biting herself draws sympathy and caring attention while causing you (or whoever is confronting the bad deed) to forget the reason she was being punished.
There are some issues that need to be addressed to stop the biting. Obviously, reprimanding her for the behavior would probably not work. Professional counselling might be in order to help get to the root cause of this destructive coping mechanism she has developed.
2006-10-05 00:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by DragonOpinion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 2 kids are startin gto realize the world doesn't revovle around them, and they don't like that. They get very frustrated when they cannot verbalize or compete at the sam elevel as their siblings. If they are being bossed around by parents and a sibling and have to compete with a baby for attention, well that is VERY frustrating.
They don't or cannot express this frustration in a way that you or others around them will accept, but they can control what they do to themselves. Biting herself releases all the pain and rage she cannot convey in any other manner. It may have started with her gums hurting her from teething and it felt good, but then noticed she gets attention also. Attention she really wants more than anything. So she starts biting more and more ...and harder. Now she is back in the race, now she has something to compete with that she can control.
Check and see if she is teething. Give her apples, hard cookies, biscuits, or frozen popsicles to help ease any gum or tooth irritation that you notice.
Make sure she has some one on one time with a grown up. Play time or reading a book.
See what is goin gon before she bites herself. is she trying to tak eher brother's toys and he's being to aggresive with his rebukes? Who runs to her aid? Who is yelling stop that? look at your total family dynamics. The problem isn't one that will be fixed overnight. You are going to have to give her some way to release any frustrations without harming herself or others. My little brothers used to bang their heads on the wall, but that wasn't any better than the biting. Basically, I would tell them to stop and take them out to play with our dog or ride a bike. I had to calm them down, then we would run or walk it off. I was only 13 at the time and that was my solution. I started baysitting when I was 11, so I had the distract them and re-focus theri attention gimick down pat before I was 13, because I wasn't allowed to do much disciplining. Distracting and playing with young ones goes a long ways.
Don't get to overly concerned about the actual biting for a bit. If it gets worse talk to your pediatricians nurse. They have a lot of suggestions usually.
Since this is self inflicted I think it is more of the head-banging type behavior with a twist, so this may help you: http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/refcap/preschooler/pbehavior/63575.html
2006-10-05 00:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's the middle child. They are always crazy. Make sure equal time is spent with her. Maybe she sees her sister as getting all the attention she used to get. (kinda young, but who knows)
Try setting aside a special time for her each day so she sees she's important too. Don't ignore her the rest of the time, but during her hour or so, it's all her. She'll learn to compromise during the rest of the day. (i hope)
2006-10-05 00:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by shogun_316 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter now 13 had the same types of problems. If you don't get her help now it will only get worse, she will end up hurting someone else badly. Ask about ODD.also they can give you some information on how to help her handle anger in a positive way.
2006-10-05 00:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...a temper tantrum! If it continues to work for her, she will continue to do it! A 2 year old would not really be a good candidate for therapy, but her parents could use some counseling to improve their parenting skills in dealing with this behavior. Good luck!
2006-10-05 00:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, turning on the self already. You could have trouble ahead with that. Don't wait. Have a child psychologist see her now. She is very frustrated and her coping mechanisms are already off.
2006-10-05 00:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is probably just a stage she is going through. maybe she is just spoiled rotten and knows she will get her way by biting herself.it's inportant not to give in to her.
2006-10-05 00:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has no words to express her needs take her away from injured child then deal with her in a gentle but firm way that this won't be tolerated
2006-10-05 00:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she thinks she's a ' chicken nugget'!
2006-10-05 00:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by that b puss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋