Is there something seriously wrong with my son?

Question

He is now in grade 3 So far there about 10 complaints against him for hitting or hurting his classmate since the school opening.
Before, he and his siblings are not being allowed to go out of the house to play, because when they are having asthma , they experience extreme difficulty in breathing.
We are are a very loving parents and are very linient to all our children. They are four in the family,and this son that I am talking about has a twin brother but don't have the same behavior.
We are both working parents.
We fear that he might be petitioned by other parents to be kicked out of school.
We love our child and we dont want this to happen. He is very loving child to us. Very talented. Very vey active and extremely curious. Actually he is the most coward of all the siblings; easily freigthened and is so afraid of the dark.
Please give me information and advice.

Answer 1

Before I get to your question I have to ask, what makes parents these days think lenient equals loving? It doesn't, it merely makes them think there are no boundaries. Someone who is unaware of social boundaries is very hard to get along with.

Your son sounds angry. My advice is three-fold:

(1) get him counseling but not through the school because through school makes the counseling less confidential.

(2) have him tested for being gifted and talented. I know this sounds crazy but my son was having some behavioral problems at school but an insightful school principle had him tested for being gifted and/or talented. It was discovered that he was both! We put him in an accelerated learning program and all those problems just disappeared.

(3) Try everything BUT drugs.

Answer 2

Get to the bottom of what exactly happened. you say your linient maybe start with that, get tougher on him, yet in a loving way, it can be done. my son is exactly the same way, strange actually its like he is two totally different people. my situation was different but still i understand how perplexed u must be. ask the other students or his twin to tell u the real story, at times when a child gets into trouble more than twice people tend to point the finger at him with much more ease. maybe he cant control his temper, but find out, my son as it turns out has adhd and so i have had to change the way i do things with him....good luck

use charts for his behavior, trust me my kids 8 & 10 know the value of losing money if they dont listen or for bad behavior at sch. i have two charts cuz my daughter is lazy but my son is not so u need to customize their charts to suit them......watch and see when they get allowance at the end of the week, i have deductions for certain behaviors.....10,20,30,40,50,75,cents adds up quickly and they see how they may lose a few bucks in one week......reality ck

Answer 3

Try and talk to him about his behaviour in school. Try to make him tell you why he acts this way. Explain to him there are other ways to deal with whatever problems arise in school: he could talk to his teacher, or use words with his classmates instead of fists!!!! Also let him be aware of the possible consequences of his actions, that is to say that he might get kicked out from school if his behavior doesn't improve.... Maybe there is a deeper problem to it: he might feel he is being bullied by some of his classmates. Or he might fell this is not the right school for him.
Try your best and find out. You want to help your child.

Answer 4

Sometimes they say children who have ADD usually are very intellegant children, may you should consult the school counsellor and child psychiatrist at the schools to find out what's going on with his behaviour. Have you sat down and asked him if any thing has happened at school like being bullied or tormented by other children. You need to listen to him and not just what he is saying. I know to well what it is like to talk at children and not actually hear what they are saying as at times we really do not want hear the truth as it can be too painful. I am mother of five children ages range from 9yrs - 11mths. Two years ago my 9 yr old daughter started to act out and we couldn't understand why until 2 weeks after seeing her father we found that he had sexually assaulted her when she was 7yrs old. We went through anger confusion, acting out fighting with her siblings, hitting me as we as yelling at me and blaming me for everything as i made them go see him and i have to live with that guilt and blaming myself for the rest of my life. As he pleaded guilty yet he believes we ruined his life by having him charged as doesn't believe he did anything wrong so do not understand why pleaded guilty then. What your son is doing can be normal for his age he may grow out of it. In the mean time all you can do is help him through this stage of his life. I found counselling really helped my daughter.

Answer 5

he would have tourette's syndrome. tourette's has a tendency to strengthen in the early adolescent years, between a protracted time 8-12. if that's so, then he would be taken care of with a sort of suggestions surgical treatment that rather cauterized the climate of the suggestions inflicting the ticks. i doubt his drugs is inflicting this. adderall is an extremely easy prescription and is not any longer known to reason any style of significant suggestions harm, and that i've got not heard of it inflicting ticks as a area-result. if the ticks proceed, it rather is beneficial to take him to a neurologist to get him screened for tourette's. that's extra beneficial to understand than no longer understand. sturdy luck!

Answer 6

no! most children at his age act out because they are unable to express their feelings. there may be something in his life that is troubling him, such as...
1.perhaps problems at school, like being unable to keep up with the other children scholastically. he may hit people so that no one will notice he is having trouble reading, writing, or doing math.
2. trouble with friends. maybe he is being picked on or teased, and fights because he feels left out.
3. trouble with family. he may not feel like he gets enough attention at home

try talking to him about these things, and then try asking a school psychologist to help out. don't worry, with parents like you, he won't get kicked out!

Answer 7

my son has done the same thing check to see if he is getting bullied at school my son was and he thought that was how you got friends or that if he was one that they would stop hurting him good luck watch out or they will expel him

Answer 8

it sounds like he might just get frustrated easily. i would take him to your pediatrician or family doctor and discuss it. he migh have some anger managment problems.

Answer 9

I think he just wanted to draw your attention. so , start to spend some time with him

Answer 10

teach him a lesson