Can ex-lovers be friends without their past sexual encounters haunting their friendship and threatening new relationships? especially if the sex was GREAT? or is it just too much history to act like the past never occured?
2006-10-04 16:50:24 · 19 answers · asked by lil_mizz_magic03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think they can it depends on the people, if they are still attracted now and what happend in the past. If you can over come those then the answer is yes.
2006-10-04 16:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by brattybard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question!!! I believe it takes a great amount of discipline to not cross the line with someone you know might still want you. Especially when you possibly still have feelings for that person. Case in point: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. A year and a half ago we took a break from each other and I dated another guy briefly for 3 months. In this time span I grew to love the new guy and we had the most amazing times together. However, eventually I started to break down and miss my old boyfriend and I soon after went back with him and tried to forget the new guy. I refused to talk to him for a year while I tried to "heal". Recently he found me on MySpace and we chat everyday, but I dare not see him in person. I feel the temptation would be too great and I would soon find myself once again juggling men with no positive end in sight. I'n not sure if I'll ever be ready to see him again. He was a very influencial person in my life an I still love him dearly. (Damn, there is no easy answer for this question!) Just try to follow your heart. That's what I'm doing. Good luck.
2006-10-04 17:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by melbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am still friends with one of my ex lovers. Sometimes the past will creep into the conversations we have and i have to say hey back off. I mean it was there but you got to know when to draw the line to keep things from getting in the way of any new relationship you have. But i don't think you can pretend that things never happened at all. The sex with my ex lover was great but the sex with my fiance is even more amazing.
2006-10-04 17:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's impossible for the two of you to be friends without thinking what you two had been through. Except, if the two of you by chance meet again after 40 years. Pick up a hobby that would take you by storm and get obsessed with it. By that, it would not even matter how good he was when you were together.
2006-10-04 16:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by trutsiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl.. initially understand what you desire. in case you opt to stay his lover then do so.. it should be tremendous at circumstances.. yet at the same time.. in case you won't be able to administration your thoughts for him then i'd advise tryn to be pals reason it may get hard. to boot.. in case you pass and locate some different person that you quite like then its going to be more beneficial sturdy to get rid of your lover. From journey i'd say proceed being his buddy without being his lover. it is going to ward off some heartache interior the destiny
2016-10-16 03:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it can. I have an ex and we're very good friends to this day and that was over 13 yrs ago.
2006-10-04 16:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as long as both of you realize that what is in the past stays in the past.
2006-10-04 17:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex wants us to remain friends and i am tring to go a long with this but i find it hard not to be jeoulous of her talking about guys that she has gone out with who she hangs with I some time think that we I would just be better off staying away from one another it is to hard to be friends with her and hearing about the new man in her life
2006-10-04 16:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by white_wizard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, ex lovers can be friends if they dont like each other anymore.
2006-10-04 16:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say its not likely to have a healthy friendship w. them... too many feelings would be involved! Good Luck
2006-10-04 16:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by cheer8ko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋