2006-10-04 16:50:17 · 18 answers · asked by DAPHNE S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I remember growing up, when i did something wrong or thought about doing something wrong i knew i had a spanking coming. so i thought twice about doing bad stuff..the kids today dont know the fear of a punishment like the kids of my generation..I got my butt busted a few times and they was pretty good ones too. But i always learned from them and i turned out great at least i think so. And my son also knows that if he breaks the law or the house rules he will be spanked so he also thinks twice before he does wrong..but he was really never a trouble maker,,
2006-10-04 17:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need try and find out why he wants to hurt people. This would depend on the age of the child. Try redirecting this negative behavior in a positive way. Remove him from the situation and distract him with something more creative he can do with his hands. No, I wouldn't spank him. Never. Communication is the key. Talk to him.
2006-10-04 23:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatley sometimes that is what it takes. Depending on the age of the child would depend on the discipline action to take. With my two year old I put her in her timeout chair which she HATES and she has to sit there until I let her get up, then when she is done I explain that hitting is bad and make her apologize to her brothers for hitting and give them a hug.
Now with my 4 year old time outs dont work so yes he does get two swats and has to apologize for behaving they way he was.
My 10 year old has to do ten minutes of alone time in his room. If he doesnt comply I start the clock over until he stays there for ten minutes by himself. Then when his time is done I expalin to him that hands are for helping not for hurting.
Not every one agrees with spanking but I think it should be left up to the parents to decide. Time outs dont always work on some kids (like my 4 year old) and Time outs work well on some kids (like my other 2) It seriously depends on the child, the age and the parents and what they believe is proper disicpline. You should know that all kids hit. It doesnt matter the age but some are more aggressive then others but they all do it. Getting it to stop will depend on how you deal with it.
Hope this helps. Good Luck
2006-10-05 00:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by pregojess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spanking will send the wrong message and you will be contradicting yourself...lead by example. The answer will vary depending on your childs age. Toddlers 2 -4 should be put in a time out for a short time equivelant to their age, ex: 2years old = 2 minutes in time out. older children 5 & 6, I would also put in time out and also made to apologize and explain to them why this behavior is innapropriate. Seven and older, not only a time-out but I would also take away a priveledge for a day. Talk to them, find out Why they feel the need to hit and teach them skills to resolve conflict. You need to stop the hitting NOW before it gets out of hand. Remember, children learn what they live, you are their best teacher. Good luck.
2006-10-05 00:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A rod of correction will drive the mischief away. If your child is obedient, a word of warning will be enough to stop him But if he is a stubborn and unruly, give him a good spanking so that he will learn his lessons.
2006-10-04 23:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not. What lesson are you teaching your child by hitting them when they hit someone else.
It is time for a negotiation. Tell him to stop doing it or you'll take away things he likes. First time he does it, take away his favourite thing. Then do it again. Continue to take things away until he learns, even if it means he is sleeping on a mattress on the floor and everything else in his room is gone.
Then, when he's good, start giving him back this things slowly.
2006-10-04 23:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all violence begets violence. You didn't say how old he was. You need more help than a parent can give. If hes school age check with the school social service. My daughter kept slicing up the baby furniture when her sister was born. I turned out she felt that they were her things and her sister shouldn't have them. Simple enough with a little redirection to cure the problem.
2006-10-04 23:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by timex846 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definetly, as a child I was always physically disciplined and I believe it worked. Sometimes you just gotta do what u gotta do, if words dont work, a good spanking will.
2006-10-04 23:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No hitting...you are teaching him that it's ok to hit to get what you want...
take those things away...things he loves....and time outs....but not in his room...
Hitting should never be an alternative....we are a civil society, too bad we don't choose it...
I was a child that was hit.....it was horrible and left terrible memories......
He may be striking out because he's frustrated....talk with him and find out why???
2006-10-05 01:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would get him into counseling. I wouldnt spank him, but Id definately disipline him for it. Id stick to the punishment too.
2006-10-05 00:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋