My daughters boyfriend does not know his father. The father has not been in his or his brothers lives since they were young. My husband feels he should be found and made to pay back child support. He has been searching on the web for him, and believes he has located him. He is talking to our daughters boyfriend who is 17 about finding him for the child support reason. The father was abusive in ways we are not sure of. It is believed the mother has settled for a sum of 5000.00 for both boys. (The boyfriend has a brother.) My husband thinks that is not nearly enough and the matter should be pursued. What do you think?
2006-10-04 16:32:50 · 5 answers · asked by Jann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The mother does not know he is doing this.
2006-10-04 16:34:03 · update #1
Absolutely not!!! If it were my son and I found out, I'd be furious. He may bring to the surface a lot of harm. No offense, but your hubby needs to butt out. If the mom has gone all this time without child support, she can certainly keep going.
My son doesn't know his father. The guy ( my b/f) raped me then beat the crap out of me when he found out I was pregnant. I refused to have an abortion, so he decided to "give" me one himself. He swore if he ever ran into me with him (the baby) or if my son came looking for him, he'd kill him. I believe every word he said. My son is 11 and does ask about him, but I tell him the guy wasn't ready to be a father and that we are better off with out him. I don't really know if I'll ever tell him the complete truth or not, but it should at least be my decision. If I ever found out that someone helped him find his bio-father, I'd tell them to leave well enough alone. If they continued, for the sake of my child, I'd have to call the police and have the person arrested for endangerment of a child.
If you don't know the entire story, please for the sake of those boys, DO NOT let him go any farther with his search.
2006-10-04 16:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by heaven help me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a mother with a child whos father isnt involved, I would be absolutely angry beyond words if some one did that. There are reasons why the father isnt around no matter what they are but there are reasons. Have you guys even stopped to think about what kind of damage you could possibly be doing? Is the father a danger to his son? Have you asked your selves the questions? Do you honestly believe the mother is going to be thrilled you located him? Absolutely not. You guys may have uncovered a whole can of worms you may not be prepared to deal with. If the mother settled on an amount then leave it be its not your business or your child. You are invading the privacy rights of his mother for no good reason what so ever. Just because You and your husband dont believe she is getting enough child support gives you no right to intrude where you dont belong.
2006-10-05 00:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by pregojess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs to mind his own business.
2006-10-04 23:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a headache now
2006-10-04 23:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by cdrfish15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your hudsband to mind his own buisiness
2006-10-04 23:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋