I am a hopeless romantic. I cry during chick flicks, I cry from songs. The thing that I want most in this world is to be love and be loved in return. I can't wait to get married and have children. And yet I feel like it's never going to happen for me. I see couples all the time and it just depresses me or makes me feel like I'm missing out. I'm not ugly, nor am I incredibly good-looking. I have many good qualities and am an enjoyable person to be around.
My question is... am I the only one who feels this way? And if you have felt this way before what were some things that you did to overcome it and how do you feel now that you have beaten it?
Serious answers only, please. Please do not be rude and call me names or make fun of me because I will report you.
2006-10-04 16:15:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just turned 22.
2006-10-04 16:30:48 · update #1
I just turned 22.
2006-10-04 16:30:50 · update #2
wow, i am right there with you.
it seems like NOBODY is out there for YOU
but, there is!
i havent found my somebody yet, but i will someday
like they say "you've got to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince".
maybe you need to put yourself out there more. show the world who you are and what you have to offer. someone's gonna love you for it!
thats what i've been trying to do lately!
and it's making me feel better about this situation
:0) best of luck!
2006-10-04 16:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt this way so much even when i was a teenager that i up and married the first guy that asked me cause i was so afraid of not ever getting married and having a family. In retrospect that was a bad move on my part. Anyway by what you are saying i am assuming you are an adult so i would suggest to put your profile up on some dating sites. Which is what i did after my divorce. I first spent some time just getting to know myself then after about a year i put up my profile. I went on a few dates some good some not so good. I mean the worst one was the guy that wouldn't talk to me the whole date. I wound up with a really good friend out of the whole thing and finally after two years i finally found my soulmate. At least i think he is my soulmate. We both had been divorced and had our families we have been together two years and are getting married in a couple months.
2006-10-04 23:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your tender nature. I have always been the same way; when a small child, we had to leave the theatre because I got upset when Pinocchio was in the belly of the whale.
Don't worry. You will find someone who can appreciate your sensitivities, and enjoy your caring attitude while not taking advantage of you. You will have adorable little babies, and they will love you lots!
I only had one child, but she is a caring soul, too. She's 25 now, and always wants to know how to make her mommy happy, even though she lives 3,000 miles away and is in med school. She calls me nearly every day, even just to say 'hello' and tell me what she had for lunch, or what the anatomy prof said, or how funny someone looked dancing.
I teach knitting and crochet now, and my students say I'm the most patient person in the world! I have wonderful friends, and life is good.
Your day is coming. Join clubs, volunteer, get out and touch people. You will find rewards for your sweetness at every turn!
2006-10-04 23:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, what have been your life experiences… how have you tried to engage in relationships in the past? If you live in a large enough city, there are lots of places to meet women. We all exist on a spectrum… some of us are more emotional than others. There is no right or wrong answer here. If you feel really plagued by this, perhaps seeing a counselor would be a positive experience for you? It’s a place to unfold and explore options. I’m sure there is someone out there for you… there is a lid for every pot. I think the best plan is to be the best you… to work on goals in your life and to engage in activities you feel good about. In this arena, you will more than likely meet someone that is similar to you. Hang in there!
2006-10-04 23:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm kinda like you, i felt the same way, but i got through it by understanding that one day i would find the man for me or he would find me and i wouldn't be alone anymore and i had to wait a while, but i did find the man i want to spend the rest of my life with and you just have to understand that you will too one day. maybe God is waiting to send you the man he knows is right for you because he knows you're sensitive. Pray and it will work out. if you think about it there's probably a lot of girls uglier than you that have boyfriends so why won't you be able to be in a meaningful relationship one day too? If they can get married and stuff then you can too, i'm sure of it.
2006-10-04 23:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by rlsangel18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want people to tell you what you want to hear, sweetie!! You are not interested in reality. You are having a personal pity party and want everyone to say "you poor baby". It is up to you to get your life in order. Go volunteer somewhere with people who are less fortunate. Read some self-help books regarding self-esteem. Probably the best thing for you to do it to seek out some personal counseling because you appear to be very depressed and self-absorbed. So, go ahead......"report me".....I don't care if that will bring some kind of a smile to your face. All that tells me is...you need an attitude adjustment.
2006-10-04 23:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey buddy trust me i felt this way for such a long time. i thought abt this all the time. but then i thought what will i gain by doing such a thing so i started enhoying these moments. when ever i saw such a couple walking hands in hands, heads on shoulders i just said to myself: HOLD ON BUDDY UR DAY WILL COME AND WHEN IT DOES U WILL BE THE HAPPIEST PERSON IN THE WORLD.
slowly i started living my life to the full and today i have found the person on whose shoulders i can rest my head. no doubt its a great feeling but i will suggest u the same thing.
Just hold on buddy things will get better.
all the best take care bye bye.
2006-10-04 23:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Buddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like this, then i got married.........best way to overcome being a hopeless romantic is marriage.....
2006-10-04 23:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes every woman goes through it at some point in their life you just have to be patient ur soulmate is out there ull evenyually find him
2006-10-04 23:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by mell14716 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to met someone you just haven't met that person that deserves you. give it time when your least looking that's when the right one will be right in front of you.
2006-10-04 23:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋