I recently moved into college and met a friend's friend who I am interested in.He pretty much personifies everything I am looking for in a guy.We have a lot in common.We've known each other for a little over a month.First we were casual friends.One of our mutual friends tried to set him up with my roommate,but that didnt work out bc he found out she parties 2 much. He invited me to an event that his dorm was hosting about two weeks ago, something you bring a date to. I was thrilled,he needed a little pep talk from a mutual friend to ask me, but he did and I accepted. Did I mention that he is INCREDIBLY shy/quiet? The night was really fun, and it was surprising because he even loosened up enough to put his arm around me, and we had some great convo's. We agreed that we should start hanging out, but since then it has only been me calling him. I want this to go somewhere, and I think he might too.I don't want to scare him, esp. since he is shy!Should I confront him, or hopehestarts callin
2006-10-04 16:04:33 · 14 answers · asked by SaRaH S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy sounds like one of my best friends... He wouldn't ever get a date if they weren't a little aggressive! He's a great guy, and will someday make some little lady a fantastic husband, but probably only if SHE proposes! LOL! Seriously, if he's worth it, it's worth it!! Go for it!
2006-10-04 16:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by dominoking77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to pursue this relationship is to leave him alone. If it's going to be good, and going to be the real deal, then you need some evidence of mutual interest. If he's not calling you, then he's not ready.
If you're the only one calling to make contact, then, think seriously about what else you'd have to do in the relationship to make it work. As enticing as it may seem right now to be a "fixer" or a "strong one," it's really not going to end up like some romance novel, because you're not going to "fix" anyone, no matter how much you love them. Harbor no illusions -- what you see now, is what you're gonna get all the time.
And, true strength comes from knowing who you are, how you deserve to be treated, and recognizing the dead horses from the front runners.
Trust your guts. If they're telling you something you don't really like or want, don't ignore the warnings. I think if it's meant to be, "shyman" will come around on his own time frame. Don't intimidate him by pestering him with phone calls. Let him express his personal style of manliness by calling you on his own terms.
Ok. Now. Do some internet research.
2006-10-04 23:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very shy guy myself. I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year and I really really love her.
But when I started out even though i loved her the same, i couldnt get myself to do anything without her basically telling me to because I was too afraid she didnt want me to.
When I talk to her now about how shy I was and how slow the relationship started out she says she thought I really didnt love her then but I did.
Some guys just need a little pushing. Our relationship is great now and i am not shy around her at all. Just tell him what you feel and he will open up eventually
2006-10-04 23:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by bl0ckhead9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy is that shy you will probably have to take charge. I know this will scare some guys off but my fiance said that he liked it when a girl would call him and stuff and show that she was interested so there are some like that out there. Maybe he doesn't like the telephone. I much prefer chatting online.
2006-10-04 23:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't press him or try to control him. He already knows you're interested. If he's interested back, he'll pursue it. Don't kid yourself about him being too shy to ask you out. You already accepted once, you let him put his arm around you and agreed that you two should be hanging out.
The ball is in his court.
2006-10-04 23:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really think that you should, serriously. even though he's INCREDIBLY shy/quiet, he'll probably loosen up. anyways, that's what he did at that event. Or maybe you should just somehow include in a casual way that you want him to call you. but DON'T confront him. but that's just my opinion, so yeah. but keep him, very valuable person.
2006-10-04 23:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like typical college drama.
Call him up and talk to him about how you feel. If its meant to be, it will be. If not, at least you will know.
You have already spent a lot of time dwelling on it, why waste your time if its not going anywhere. That way you will know.
Good luck sweetie
2006-10-04 23:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by misjes2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not expect him to change. Accept him if he's loyal; However, teel hin it would be nice if he'd call you once in a while, or make a surprise.
2006-10-04 23:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys confuse the hell outta me. One says he likes me and shows few signs of it and then says he doesn't want to hurt me. I seem to scare them all away. Guys are such scaredy cats it seems. Make one wrong quick move and they run like bunny rabbits.
2006-10-04 23:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you take charge, i did that and now i'm married to him bc it impressed him and turned him on =)
2006-10-04 23:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋