Is it true that if you are a mormon women you have to be married to go to heaven?

Question

I was reading once that as a mormon women, you have to be married so that you can go to heaven because your husband has to pull you through some kind of boundry or something. I'm wondering if this is true, because I asked a mormon friend and she got mad at me and told me to ask the missionaries. I just wanted to know if this is what the mormon religion believes or if this is more internet hooplah. Thanks a bunch!

Answer 1

Yes, that is what Mormons believe.

"Celestial" marriage, as this eternal marriage is often called, is essential for Mormon women. Without being celestially married to a holder of the priesthood, a woman cannot be "saved" .

In Mormonism women do not amount to much in themselves, and some women are celestially married to men they had no intention of ever living with, so that they could have a man who would be able to get them into heaven.

In the temple marriage ceremony, women are given secret names known only to their husbands, for identification purposes, so their husbands can pull them through to "the other side" after death.

During the marriage ceremony, until 1990, men made their temple covenants directly to God, while the women had to make their temple covenants to their husbands. This means that while male temple workers representing God lead the men through the cloth representing the veil between worlds, husbands, symbolically, lead their wives through. Women also promise to obey their husbands in everything as long as their husbands obey God.

After death, while their husbands are creating and ruling over planets, the women have the questionable honor of bearing his "spirit children" for eternity. These spirit children descend to their Father's planet to inhabit bodies as mortals, who are then ruled over by him. Mormon Doctrine states that these celestially married men and women "will live eternally in the family unit and have spirit children, thus becoming Eternal Fathers and Eternal Mothers".

A man who has multiple wives can beget many more spirit children, making him much more powerful. Birth control is, of course, very strongly discouraged. Ambitious Mormon men must beget many children with as many wives as possible, for "their glory (in heaven) is in proportion to the number of their wives and children".

Mormon women today are brought up to believe that the most important thing they can do is "to marry the right person, in the right place, by the right authority. Deborah Laake, who was excommunicated in 1993 for writing Secret Ceremonies, states that "it had been repeatedly impressed on me that if I failed to marry a faithful Mormon man...in a Mormon temple, I would be denied access to the highest level of Mormon heaven".The temple marriage is so important "that a longing for romance on earth should not be allowed to interfere with it".

.http://www.exmormon.org/mormwomn.htm

Answer 2

Kristenle, you're getting Internet hoopla mixed with some truths. Entrance into heaven is gained by baptism through the proper priesthood authority. To attain the highest glory of heaven, called the Celestial Kingdom where God the Father and His Son resides, requires a man and his wife to be sealed together for all eternity in one of our temples.

I will not get into doctrine any further than what I've explained here. Why your friend became angry over your question is beyond me as it is a sensible one to ask.

Yet being curious about the Mormon religion does not give license to learn everything about it. Only those who have been baptized by proper priesthood authority and continue to live worthily can learn the advancing truths.

You have much to learn and if you're truly interested, and not just curious, start by reading the Book of Mormon.

Answer 3

The covenant of eternal marriage is required for all (both men and women) to enter into the highest glory of Heaven. It is not specific to women. If a man does all that he can do, but has not made this covenant, than he will not be achieve the greatest reward for living on this earth.

Answer 4

Allow me to help clarify things a bit; granted I don’t know everything, but I can tell you what I believe. “guitarpicker56” is right, however you are more then welcome to learn as much about the church as you like even without joining. Quite frankly, I’m not sure what KirstyCristy is getting at. And you have to wonder if an Ex member is a reliable source. Here’s what I believe, (and let me clear some confusion too ;)).

Doctrine: Men and Women are required to be married to reach the highest level of glory, yes. However, it’s the Men that are more obligated to marry not the women. It is our priesthood duty to do our best to find someone we can love for eternity. Of course this doesn’t always happen, same with the women. In fact I’ve known several older relatives that have died with being married. In this case, they are still allowed in to “heaven”, or a high degree of glory; but, can’t share in full glory because it “takes two to tango”. However, there is a chance before Judgment to that they may find one they love to spend eternity with. There’s always hope.

Now let me get some things straight (sorry KirstyCristy). Like I said, men and women can be “saved” if they never had a chance to marry. It’s just like those who have never heard of Christ, they can be “saved” too.

My Belief: According to me (not doctrine, just my own belief), Women naturally possess a sacred power of God that we men need the Priesthood authority just to try to be on the same level. Did you ever her of Motherly instincts? On top of that, that power is so sacred, it is our responsibility as Men to guard them and keep them sacred. Men serve Women, not the other way around. Now it may be true some women felt so obligated by pressure to get married, that they married just to be married and not out of love. Doctrine: But, that is said, and not condoned by the church. Marriage is about love and companionship, more then doing it just to achieve the highest glory. Marrying just to get their and not for love defeats the purpose.

Doctrine: In the Temple new (and very sacred) names are given to everyone that passes through the “veil”. And these names are not repeated to anyone, (except once when going through the veil for the first time) the husband does know the new name of the wife. My Belief: The husband as the wife’s companion, protector, or champion if you will; and does lead their wife through the veil. It’s not for “identification purposes”, it’s symbolic and sacred.

Doctrine: As part of the temple ceremony, Women “covenant” with, not to, there husband. The husband covenants to God for both. My Belief: Think of it as a champion protecting the most sacred of things, representing both parts

Doctrine: After death and receiving the fullest of glory, we can’t even imagine what it’ll be like. What we do know is. The husband and wife will work as a team, as equals. My Belief: Maybe it’s for spirit children; but, maybe it’s for a lot more we can’t even imagine. The bottom line is we don’t know, but that’s not our focus right here right now.

Doctrine: We can only be married to one wife/husband for eternity. Being a polygamist doesn’t make one stronger. Polygamy was in the past of the church just as it was in the Bible, but is no longer recognized. My Belief: I don’t know if the polygamist men of the past keep all their wives; but, differently aren’t better or stronger. At the very least, this proves that the Men are almost nothing without the Women. Doctrine: Birth control is discouraged to a point; but, is not a sin and is definitely used. We are encouraged to not to wait to have children and to have as many as we can handle, no more. More children won’t make us stronger or better. My Belief: There’s no way I’m having 20 kids I have enough problems with the four I have. I don’t know what this whole proportion thing is. We just get married (once) and have a few children, simple. There are rules or laws governing how or how many.

My Belief: It is true that Mormon women are brought to believe marriage important (men too), but it’s more for the protection to find the right person. Many Mormon men and women do feel pressured to get married to quickly. However, this wrong; and it’s some people of the church that cause this pressure, not the church itself. And, like I said before, I don’t think an Ex-member who obviously has some vices is the best source for information. It’s like asking Martin Luther information about Catholics, you just don’t do it. (not that he’s bad, just making a point).

Sorry this is long, just a couple more thought’s. In about 1995 ish, the prophet of the church stated that any man who has not married by age 30 is not fulfilling his priesthood duties. MAN, not women. In the church we’re all considered equals. However, women are very sacred and innately powerful, and men are obligated to protect and represent them. That’s why all the leaders are men, because if anything should go wrong, we are responsible, and the women protected. I hope this helps a little, but I think the General Relief Society could give you more insight from their view, thanks good luck.

Answer 5

Mormons have more hoops to jump through than you could possibly imagine to try and "work" themselves into heaven.

That's why they are best avoided. Stick to the bible alone; and the Jesus of the bible, not the false Jesus, or false gospel, of Mormonism.

Answer 6

I think you have to give oral sex to 100 men.

Answer 7

Don't have a clue....