My daughter's dad is in prison for something he did when he was 18 years old. He is now almost 30 and only has about 7 months left. How can I get my daughter to understand that everything will be ok and that there is nothing she can do to make what he did go away. She thinks her life is misreable because of this, although I try to tell her that being with me should bring her some happiness.
2006-10-04 15:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by Melissa MacDonald 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to be honest with you i would explain to her that everything will be ok and that if he is not harmful let her know that..tell her how you rememebr him being and maybe he is the same but with more sense or so..Haveing them write eachother would be good i dea to..or maybe if he calls your house or something every now and again i would let them talk over the phone even..I ahev a 9 month old daughter well almost nine months and has never once seen ehr daddy..he is locked up for stupidy..He has only seen her in pictures that is it..It is very well possiable that they will never meet in person till she is over a year..I know there is a big difference in the age maybe cuase i have no idea how old your daightr is but i still feel that i am in the same situation case she knows my boyfriend as her daddy then in the up coming year i am going to have to tell her that my b/f is not her real daddy..she will be scared of her father when she is fist with him..So i am almost in the same situation but hten again i am not..i would have your daughter have some kind of contact with her dad so she will somewhat feel comfortable when he gets out..know what i mean??
2006-10-04 16:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by mother of two 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since he is been in jail due to the fact 18, I'm assuming that makes her round 22? And she can not appreciate the predicament all on her possess? Or did you get pregnant with a convict in jail? And how does a person who is not ever been there to elevate her have any accountability for the way in which her existence has became out?
2016-08-29 07:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's been in prison since 18, I'm assuming that makes her around 22? And she can't understand the situation all on her own?
Or did you get pregnant with a convict in prison?
And how does a man who's never been there to raise her have any responsibility for the way her life has turned out?
2006-10-04 15:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
About all you can say is, "he played and he payed" and now he'll be getting out...hope he learned from the experience. It has nothing to do with her and if her life is miserable it is not because of this....she didn't even know him and how different is that from a lot of other kids whose dad's left the family...except you knew where he was. Since he has been gone...she should not be expected to treat him like a dad...he hasn't been there, she doesn't know him but a person with a sad and sorry past. Let's see what he does with his life and what she does with hers and see who is miserable or who can move on inspite of everything past. and lets have no excuses about it..
2006-10-04 16:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it's hard to think the person that help made you isn't perfect after all. I suggest counseling... as it's a touchy issue. Hard to know how she really feels without having had a Dad in prison too. It might be peers that look down on her... or thoughts that he might go back one he's out. I don't often suggest counseling... but this one, I definitely do.
Good luck
2006-10-04 15:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only do what you can do. My sis has raised her two children with their Dad in prison, and they don't really want anything to do with him, but I can see that the lack of him being in their lives and the impact it has on their behaviors and interactions with mostly public people. If she wants anything to do with him, tell her to tell him she does. Make sure she knows why he has been in jail too, it is important for her to know what he did was wrong.
2006-10-04 16:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by llltazslleyeslloflltrullblulll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach her comp[assion for him, having misssed seeing her gorw up, and missing the joys of family life. Have her understand that there isn;t a human around who has not made mistakes.
2006-10-04 15:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could explain it to her this way>>> that when she does something that she's not supposed to do & is punished for it, she'll still remember what she did, but things will be better because she has learned (thru punishment, correction) not to do it any more.
2006-10-04 16:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a father is a father till the day he dies or your daugther dise tell her that here or in china it still her dad and she has to accept him just the way he is it says it in the bible (honor your mohter and your father so your days on earth extend )
2006-10-04 16:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you taking him back? How to wreck a kid's life in one easy lesson if you are.
2006-10-04 15:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋