Why do Parents Always Bring down their kids?

Question

well.... I'm 16 and i am always depressed about my parents.
i always think about suicide and yatta yatta yatta... Today I think I really am going to do it maybe maybe not... My parents are the biggest assholes in the world. I say to them how well i do in school straight A's and they ignore it and look only at my older brothers grade.... i made my grade straight f's to see if they notice and they don't. I'm just left out on the picture. I barely ask for things and the yell (like 10 bucks to buy like a cd) They Give My brother $2500 and he spent it on something useless. Well I'm thinking of ending it all now so please i would love to here your answers. please help........

well.... I'm 16 and i am always depressed about my parents.
i always think about suicide and yatta yatta yatta... Today I think I really am going to do it maybe maybe not... My parents are the biggest assholes in the world. I say to them how well i do in school straight A's and they ignore it and look only at my older brothers grade.... i made my grade straight f's to see if they notice and they don't. I'm just left out on the picture. I barely ask for things and the yell (like 10 bucks to buy like a cd) They Give My brother $2500 and he spent it on something useless. Well I'm thinking of ending it all now so please i would love to here your answers. please help........



just to tell you guys this a new part of the detail... I just told my parents what you guys said.. hard to believe but they ignored it well now i really dont want to live i really dont think i can handle life now well all i know is .... well i really dont know what to expect out of tonight

well all i know is i'm in my room with some pills.. i pray to god i really dont go to hell

i poasted a new thing so please read this one and go to the other the other one is called why do kids want to suicide

i thank everyone who tried to stop me from suiciding..... thank you guys for all ur help. It got me through tonight with cation. Thank you guys

this really wasn't a joke i was about to kill myself with a whole bottle of pain killers...
realley it wasn't a joke you guys save a 16 year old from suicide i own you all my life thanks

Answer 1

Well here's the deal. I think about suicide A LOT! But I never really go for it. You know why? It's because I always ask myself.
"What if I botched it"? What if I jump in front of a bus, or dive off of a bridge, & I don't die? Then I wake up in a hospital a quadraplegic, with my bad & sad situation a whole lot worse!!!
And the ironic thing is that now I have lost the physical capability to make a 2nd attempt.

Now what if you swallowed that bottle of pills, & then YOU wake up in the hospital, with your brain screwed up to the point that you can't physically move your arms & legs, & you can't breathe on your own, or move your mouth to speak, but you still have clear thinking. Would that be a better or worse situation than the one you now have? So it has occured to me that even suicide can be a risky endeavour.

Here's the bottom line. Don't commit suicide. You may be suprised to know, your thoughts of suicide, your depression, your perception of your parents, are normal for a guy your age. You know,, "raging hormones" etc etc.
But it's all true. A lot of your negative feelings are heavily influence by growth changes in your body. I am not saying that you are immagining things, or that you don't have a valid issue with your parents, but you will have a different outlook as soon as you've passed through this stage in your life.

I am truly sorry that you feel your parents favour your brother over you. I recommend that you talk to your mom & dad & tell them the way you feel. Show them this question & the responses that you get. It would be a far better wake up call for them, than if they found you dead in bed tomorrow morning.
They will never understand why you did it. No one else can explain to them why you would kill yourself better than you.

Now if they still take you for granted after you've brought this all out in the open, then you can keep this final message with you.

The best revenge is living well. Go back to getting straight A's & live a happy, successful, productive life.
Besides, you weren't put on this earth to make your PARENTS happy.
So it won't matter if they don't appreciate you, as long as YOU can be proud of your accomplishments.

Answer 2

Hey kiddo... hold on, ok? Unfortunately we don't all get the greatest parents in the world. Some of us don't get parents at all. And if you are lucky to get some great parents, give it a few years and they'll likely disappoint you anyway. What does it really matter if your brother is treated different/better/worse than you? In the long run it doesn't. What does matter is how you live your life. Focus, focus, focus on a career path and get the education you need to make that dream come true. Parents come and parents go. Some love better than others. Don't give your situation a second thought. Continue getting those straight A's... but do it for YOU. Also, please make an appointment to see a doctor. The ups and downs of hormones at your age can cause depression. Depression can be treated. Don't even doubt that. Take care of yourself and plan for your future. We need you out here in this world because YOU understand the pain.

Answer 3

Maybe your parents think your brothers need more attention. Who knows. I do know that you do have a place in this world or you wouldn't be here. There is a reason for you and you have your whole life to look forward to. Take this as a lesson....One day you will have children and you will know how you shouldn't treat your children. You are a very bright person and you are your own person. Think of all the good you will be able to do in your life, make goals and follow through with them. Show everyone that YOU can do what YOU want to do and can succeed with or without them. Here is a BIG hug just for you, I am proud of you, just get back to those all A's.

Answer 4

WOW! I am sorry you feel so depressed- let me tell you that I am proud of you for your accomplishments! Sometimes parents don't see there big goofs and screw up major- you have a good head on your shoulders- your older bro will probably be moving out b4 u. Find a counselor at school, or someone that is safe and will listen- I see you got mostly good advice- I hate to see you have such sadness- but it will pass- your brothers being spoiled will come back and bite them- it will just take time- you take care of you- and do the best w what you have- take care D- email me if u like- D

Answer 5

First of all your parents should treat all of their children as equal as possible. There are times when that may not happen but there should always be a logical explanation for it. Example: your older brother is graduating High School and needs a car. Your parents buy him a car but don't get you anything. To be fair if they just purchased a high dollar item for your brother then they may not be able to afford the $10 for you to buy a CD.

Now, I'll tell you what it sounds like to me...It sounds like your parents are treating you like a scapegoat. They favor your brother openly and outright ignore you. What they are doing is a form of abuse and you need to tell your school counselor that you feel abused and neglected. You are having suicidal thoughts. You need to seek help and possibly even be removed from your abusive, neglectful parents.

Answer 6

The worst feeling in the world is to feel unloved. I have a 15 year old son who goes through times of not feeling loved by me. I married another man 6 years ago and my son and his father don't have a relationship anymore since our divorce when my son was 8. It makes me very very sad when I find out that he isn't feeling loved by me and I try and do things like spend more time with him, and rub his hair and stuff like that. You could try to tell your Mom this is how you feel, that you don't feel loved and you don't feel like you matter to them and you might even tell her about your thoughts of suicide. If they don't listen or try to change things after that, talk with a teacher or a school counselor. Keep making straight A's and get a scholarship and go away to college and become a successful citizin. The teenage years are the hardest...please just hang in there...know your NOT alone.

Answer 7

Go back to getting A's. Don't ruin your future by playing stupid games to get your parents attention. Go for the scholarship, financial aid, etc. and get a good education. You only have a few years to go and your will be able to move out on your own. You are also at an age where you could get a part time job to earn some spending money.

Just remember that as you age, so do they. In the future, it may be them looking to you for financial support. Just bide your time.

Answer 8

OK...first of all, why end your life? You'd only be punishing yourself, when you've done nothing wrong...NO NO NO the best revenge...is to live, be great at it, and prove to everyone that you are better than that...and that no matter how anyone treats you, you will always pull yourself out of it. Use the bad crap in your life, and do your best to turn it around and make yourself a better person. Have you talked to your parents about it? Or to someone close to your parents? Don't let people drag you down. You are someone important regardless of how others treat you. Hang in there, life gets better, I promise!!!

Answer 9

Let your parents know how you feel. If that doesnt work, talk with your school counselor. To speak about your parents in the way that you do is very wrong and disrespectful. You definitely need some help with your problem. In addition it sounds as tho you have some strong sibling rivalry going on, which also needs to be addressed. Now exactly what type of method do you plan to use in your effort to end it all?

Answer 10

First of all, don't do anything rash. They possibly don't know how to compliment a good job. Or, they're more worried about how your brother's going to turn out and know that you will turn out okay. Talk to your parents, grandparents, or a favorite teacher. If you have a school psychiatrist, it might be good to talk to him/her. The main thing is to talk about your feelings. It will help to get it out of your system.

Another thought is to start a Yahoo 360 page and start a blog where you can write about everything that's happening. Then, invite the people to read it who need to read it the most. Good luck!!