I have a reputation for being straightforward and honest.Ppl are always telling me that it a good thing but then pple get mad at me (and its some time the same ppl that said it was a good thing).I like the way I am but I get lost when this happens I don't.Its not that I even really care what ppl say but at times I get in big trouble or I make some one cry ( I don't make ppl cry all the time but it has happen befor)then I feel bad.Sometimes I don't even notice when I saythings like I notice but after I say it.
2006-10-04 15:09:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
In the long run they do like that you tell them the truth - but in the short run it can still hurt. It could also be in how you express the truth. Its important to say what you mean but don't say it mean. You can tell a person honestly if you don't like their outfit - but how do you tell them? Then again you will always run into people that now matter what you do - they aren't going to be pleased by what you say. There are also people who may tell you they like your honesty - but they are lying when they say it.
2006-10-04 15:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing: when someone lies, it is b/c they know that the truth will hurt and upset a person. The problem with lying is that if the person finds out they were lied to, then they are even more mad.
You stick to the way you are - when someone gets mad at you for being honest, ask them if they would prefer you lie to them. As relationships grow closer and others grow apart, the friends who are true and honest are the ones that end up being friends for life...the people who drop you as a friend are not worth being around...they do not value your opinion.
When someone gets mad at you for being honest, tell htem that you are affording them the respect of truth, which you believe they deserve and then tell them that you are treating them with the same respect that you hope they would have if they even had to tell you the truth about something.
Be true! Be honest, be you.
2006-10-04 15:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jacki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that saying.... "you want the truth?... You can't handle the truth!"...
Well that's what happens. I should know. I'm in your same situation. It is hard to catch yourself before you say hurtful things but if you make a concious effort, it can get better.
However i don't think you should feel bad about being honest. That's a quality that many people do not posses but wish they did.
kudos to you
2006-10-04 16:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by chelly01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is a virtue, and being honest with people is an act of kindness that may not always be appreciated.
However.
Many people use the mask of "honesty" to cover themselves to say any kind of mean damn thing they want to.
If you are getting offended reactions from people, perhaps your "honesty" amounts to rudeness. If you take someone to dinner then ruin their meal by mentioning how fat you think they've gotten, for example, you are not being "honest", you are being Mean.
What you think of as being helpful may be none of your business, and your helpful comments perceived as personal attacks.
Honesty needs Tact.
2006-10-04 15:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because humans are a race of hypocrites
2006-10-04 15:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever i say something mean ( and i don't relize it like you) i tell them it in a nicer way or just say i didn't mean it that way. but it's human to be like that. you just have to watch what you say.
2006-10-04 15:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋