i cant express hurt?

Question

so i have this problem expressing my emotions.

im way over sensitive and the littlest thing you say to be will make me extremely upset in tears

when im hurt by someone i feel the need to be mean to get back at them because i hate them. i tell them i hate them, and never want to see them again, and that i hope they die. and say the meanest things i can think of

and then like 2 minutes later i start crying and feeling bad and acting all loving again.

then about 2 minutes later i feel the hate again, and i start being mean. and even when i hate someone, i cant like leave them. i dont want them to leave me. because im scared of being abandoned.

i just...switch...from sad, angry, hateful, loving, ect.

ALSO..when im angry i cry too, like when something pisses me off and im irritated i'll start crying.

its so confusing.
why am i like this?
what disorders could this be?

i dont think its bipolar or MPD because i only act this way when someone hurts my feelings.

if im not hurt..i act perfectly normal, no mood switches.

Answer 1

The first reaction to any emotion we wont express is anger. Its the 'umbrella' emotions that covers all the others. Including the tears of sadness.
Second, with you may have a "fear of abandonment". If someone close to you early on rejected you, you may actually be responding TO THAT PERSON, no matter who or how long ago. So you over react. Then you realize you did, get lovey dovey to keep them and then once in the palm of your hand again you release.
You need healthy self esteem, someone close to you early in life probably didnt help you develop it, or yet, crossed a line and made you lose it. So you're a kid inside no matter your age.
Sure, at first is that you dont care about getting all ticked off and DRIVING that person away, you could care less, b/c thats typical of someone with a fear of abandonment.In the back of their mind is "I'll leave them before they leave me", including CAUSING someone to leave you. But thats your biggest fear--that they WILL leave you. You actually feel helpless and that is a lot of why you cry out of helplessness.
Dont peg much on yourself. Might see a counselor short term.This is very overcomable. But you need to do what you can for yourself. INCLUDING LEARNING TO ACCEPT AND LIKE YOURSELF. And respect and believe those that love you. Really believe it. Or else why would they put up with that? Smile OK?Best to you.

Answer 2

It sounds like a pattern you grew up with.
If your emotions are overboard, and you react to them so fast (with a pounding heart, sweating in fear, and furious anger)that they control your actions, you might have had to control them artificially in childhood, or deny them completely, to survive in your family situation.
Most people feel the emotions you describe, but they have a healthy way to REACT inside themselves to the emotions, a "filter" that keeps them from speaking without thinking, or weeping, etc. They do not let the emotions control their actions.
Now, they are all coming to the surface, and you don't know how to control them, perhaps because you have no practice.
Get to a therapist, counselor, or 12-step group and talk about yourself and your memories. You can get your feelings in order, it just takes time and practice.

Answer 3

I think it could be a number of things.

The one thing that reflects on our emotions, thinking, and the way we deal with things on a daily basis is how our parents/guardians were. We learn how to cope, express emotion, and how to react from the people in our lives. Maybe this is something learned while you were growing up? Just a thought.

Answer 4

It could be as simple as a chemical or hormonal imbalance. Tell your doctor about your symptoms, and you might find a medication to bring you into balance.

Answer 5

it occurs. dont fear via expressing you emotions you'll now not damage your friendship along with her however i wish that you just have to now not inform your emotions to her proper now. first of all you have to attempt to understand whether or not she additionally loves you or now not after which opt for it. satisfactory of good fortune

Answer 6

Being emotional is not a disorder.

Answer 7

get your thyroid checked... that is a big part of mood problems if your thyroid is out of whack.

Answer 8

think your bi polor or have muti personalities who knows