my girlfriend is 18 and I am 24.I met her parents the other and they loved me and all and they even brought up the marriage talk with me and their daughter.My girlfriend and I spoke about it but for some reason I dont think I am ready to get married yet.I mean I would want to get married with her at some point but the way things are right now,we are both in college,dont have a lot of money to get ready for a wedding and build a life together and all the other issues that goes with getting married and settling down.The thing is she wants to get married and now feels like I am stalling and dont wanna get married to her.I dont want her and her folks to feel that I am just scared of commitment and responsibility but they fact of the matter is I want the best for both of us but I think if we get married right now,it will only be a burden on both our lives.Please I need your honest advice.Thanks
2006-10-04 15:01:24 · 6 answers · asked by medotech 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you....just have fun together....be together....be happy...when college is done with and you're established with a job and a place to live....then think about....Just let her know this...It makes more sense.
I've been with my bf for over 4 years and we're still in school and stuff...sure i've thought about it and i want marriage someday...but I wanna be done with school and settled with a good job...(i want my ducks in a row)...so right now, we're just being happy, having fun and being together...
2006-10-04 15:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah seriously, she is 18! That is freaking young and so are you! Don't let her and her parents talk you into doing anything you don't want to do right now. You got plenty of time and you both, especially her being 18!, need time to grow up a little, get through college, figure out what you want out of life. I am glad to hear you want to slow it down, do not give in. Marriage is nothing to be rushed into to. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-10-04 22:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to get married then don't, and she needs to understand that, but her being 18yrs of age, she doesn't because when you are that young you think the wedding is the marriage and its so much more. And if you get married know it will not be true, but it was done due to pressure and you do not want that. So explain to her the reason why, and if she and her parents do not understand, then you need to rethink your relationship with her.
2006-10-04 22:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound too smart for this girl and her parents any parent that pushes their 18 yr daughter to get married are just stupid whats wrong with them think twice about this girl
2006-10-04 22:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to me about it, talk to your gf, and bring up the concerns you have. you should be able to talk about anything to eachother. especially if your contemplating marriage.
belive it or not women arnt mind readers, you need to tell her how you feel, im sure she'll understand.
2006-10-04 22:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, if u don't feel like this just tell her & i promise she will understand u if she really loves u & talk to her parents to....Good LUck!!!
2006-10-04 22:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by solymar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋