I started dating my boyfriend about 6 mounths ago and i cheated on him with his cousin. What i did was wrong and i am truly sorry and will never do it again. All i want is to start fresh and grow strong with my bf but i fell like once he finds out he is going to leave me. How do i tell him without losing him forever. {{thanx}} P.S. im 18 and he is 19....
2006-10-04 14:52:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look.... This is not what you want to hear but there is no way to tell him this w/o him leaving you, almost for sure. Even if you don't tell him, it's not like you could marry him since he will almost for sure find out eventually. Either don't tell him or get ready for life w/o him.
More importantly, I would very strongly consider talking to a counselor about what you did and why you thought it was ok to f@ck his cousin. Seriously because mabey there is something in your past of family that made you do this and you do not even realize it and you may do it later again in life when you are married, etc and wreck your marriage by sleeping with your husband's brother, etc.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 14:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's commendable that you want to tell him, and I definitely think you should. However, you may very well lose him. Can you blame him? How would you react if he came to you with the same thing? Think about how YOU would want to be told? The answer to your question is no, you may not be able to tell him without breaking his heart. You can't go through life trying to protect people by lying to them or hiding the truth from them. It'll hurt them even more! He may react in many different ways. The best case scenario is that he will be hurt, but will forgive you and want to start fresh just like you. The worst case is he will be so hurt and angry that he will just walk out and never speak to you again. You can't keep this inside for fear of the worst case. It's going to eat away at you eventually. You did do something you regret and there are consequences to every action. This is your consequence. Good luck!
2006-10-04 22:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything! His cousin won't talk for sure, so let it be a secret!
Even if you tell him and he agrees to try with you despite that, it is going to bother him constantly, he is going to grow cold on you and your relationship is going to be hell...
Your honesty and good will to set things straight even though that's damn hard to do, are admirable. But it won't do any good to both of you. I have asked many boys and they admitted they'd rather not know if their girls did sth bad.
And if the cousin talks, you don't know anything... He is just being jealous of relationship and he obviously has a crash on you, plus you would never do that to your sweat heart!
Good luck and let time take away your feelings of guilt, it's gonna be better I promise.
2006-10-04 22:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Irouli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you have really f***ed up, do you really think you deserve forgiveness? and with his cousin? You need to tell him and live with the consnquences, he is probably going to be angry and hurt( can you blame him?) As for starting fresh and growing strong, you should have thought about that before you did his cousin
2006-10-04 21:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, there is no nice way to say this but you kinda did the lowest of the low, espceially since you cheated with family. You will be a very lucky girl, if he forgive you for that. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-04 21:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by kindaupset 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where he REALLY doesn't want to know. Don't tell him, and if his cousin tells him; deny everything. He'll forgive his cousin, he won't forgive you. (and honestly, how would telling him POSSIBLY help the relationship? all it's going to do it hurt him badly and make him distrust women for a good long period of time)
2006-10-04 22:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Licky Licky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the same thing happened to me and i can say you better just tell him because take it from me it hurts to find out but he will stay with you if he loves you He will thank you for your honesty and i hate to say it but you will have to start over again. if you truly want to make it work tell him express your feelings and take it froma heart broken guy he will understand and thank you. He will also know that you are honest and will trust you sooner
TRUST ME DO THE RIGHT THING
2006-10-04 21:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by rich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gonna have to find out either way sorry but there is no way to tell him in a nice way u know if he says he really loves u,as he says he does then he will learn to forgive u and talk it out with u that's all i can help u with but i wish u god luck OK
2006-10-04 22:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant avoid losing him...its gonna happen sooner or later and the faster u tell him the better cauz he wont be as attached as he would be later on...u ruined it, sorry...but do u really want to put him thru this and make him live in a lie?
2006-10-04 21:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him isn't going to break his heart....screwing around did.
2006-10-04 21:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋