My brother is getting married soon and i feel a bit eft out as i havent been asked to help with anything and i dont know why i am 3 yrs older than him and just feel a bit left out.
2006-10-04 14:46:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are the lucky one. I think he likes you best...
2006-10-04 14:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by don s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just try asking the bride if there is anything that you could help with. The bride is typically the one that makes all those sorts of decisions.
I didn't have my sister stand up for me at my wedding, but I did have her involved in another capacity. It was a VERY small wedding, but I had family on both sides doing everything from the minister to ushers to photographer, etc. It was wonderful.
When my brother got married (the first time), both my sister and I were entirely left out of everything - other than I was "elected" to throw the whole rehersal dinner thing. Ton of work for absolutely no thanks.
2006-10-04 21:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel left out too. Don't blame your brother. Most guys don't pay much attention to stuff like that. If you have a good relationship with his fiance, ask her if there is anything you can do to help. If she says no, then just go to the wedding and try to be pleasant. She obviously is not interested in trying to be close to you.
2006-10-04 21:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are not close to the bride, you shouldnt feel left out. They might just not have anything that they need, however people do not always ask, so you might offer to help in some way. She may like for you to stand with the guest book or serve punch. Offer your help and support and that's all you can do.
2006-10-05 10:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i got left out of my eldest brothers wedding but I didn't mind cos i was still able to help him and the guys get ready.
But just because I was left out of his wedding it doesn't mean that he will be left out of mine because I'm going to ask him to walk me down the ailse as my father has passed away
If you feel left out just say to him is there anything I can do as I feel a bit disappointed that I'm not involved in anyway. I said this to my youngest brother when he got married and in the end my eldest niece and I were ushers and we still felt involved. (And I didn't have to worry about a bridesmaid dress either)
2006-10-05 13:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Aunty Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my oldest brother married when i was 16,and at the time we hated each others guts.Now that was thirty years ago,people change,times change,I've gotten over it and so as he.At the time i felt left out as well,so i didn't go and as far as I'm concerned i didn't miss anything.That day i had the house to myself,and made love to my girlfriend all day.I had a great time,hope he did too.
2006-10-04 21:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FlaChic...you sure do talk out of both sides of your mouth now...don't ya? "It's not your wedding"? HA!
Emma, you are entitled to feel the way you do. Weddings seem to bring the best out in people. Just make the best of the situation, offer to help.
2006-10-04 22:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by chrisj70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spin it around to the positive....because you have been "left out", so to speak, you are free to have fun and enjoy the festivities without the responsibility of having to help!
Cool beans!
2006-10-04 21:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop cryin' the bride runs the show and it's your brother so the bride is probably asking all her friends and family.
2006-10-05 00:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been left out when my dad got re-married he's not trying to do it on purpose he just wants this to be his day.i mean it is but he just wants it to be perfect.dont feel bad when you get married you will be that way to.
2006-10-04 21:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by tina_bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you offer? As things get closer, they are bound to need help with something!
2006-10-05 08:51:47 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋