My 19 yo brother is on drugs (marijuana, pills and ???). He doesn't work or go to school. He lives at home with my Mother and Step-Father (they are good parents and were never abusive; either physically or verbally). He has no respect or care in the world and treats everyone around like garbage. He is starting to steal money from our Mother.
Is there anyone who can offer some loving advice so we can try and help him with his addicition, even though he claims he is fine and doesn't want or need help.
2006-10-04 14:39:16 · 9 answers · asked by WJW 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My parents don't want to throw him out in fear that he will end up dead.
2006-10-04 14:41:07 · update #1
We all tell him how much we love him and that we are here to help him. But he doesn't see any problems, because his brain is clouded with drugs.
2006-10-04 14:44:36 · update #2
Helping him is just another way of enabling him to continue his drug use. Since he is fairly young, an intervention might help him. Your parents are going to have to get in touch with some professionals who can guide them in this process and tell them the best way to handle this situation.
I'm sorry that this is happening. He will continue using and stealing and this type of behavior usually progresses, depending on the type of substance he is using, it could get pretty bad quickly or drag on and on for years.
Urge your parents to seek help for themselves so that they can help your brother.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 14:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No advice for him, but you better stay away from him. When he gets in a bad way, he will drag all of you down. Stealing money is just another step toward more greater crimes, besides the drugs. As his drug problem gets harder to feed, he will become more aggressive to get the money for it. If your parents will not make an effort to stop him now, they will pay for it later.
Anyway, no one can stop him. He cannot even stop himself, until he comes close to losing his life. Maybe not even then. If you want to try to help him, try a priest. But do not let anyone know it
was you, keep your name out of it.
2006-10-04 15:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by ageless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Dear,
I have heard these stories before. We have got to try something else that will work. It seems talking to him and crying over him wont work because the drugs have invaded his rational thought process. But I have a better way. Have you thought about Letting Go and Letting GOD? I know I know, people always say, "What will God do?" Well let me tell you. Today (really), I was in my car and it was storming, I said in a short prayer, "God, I am about to get out of my car, can you please stop the rain for a minute so I can get in the house, amen", Guess what? He stopped the rain.....I was amazed. I am a person that is hard on faith because it is tough, but what can you do but have faith when your words are all used up and your tears? I can see you care. But if you SINCERELY Care, PRAY....God Can and will. Read Psalms 91 in the Bible and surrender your will to God. He will help. For I remember when my fiance was in the world as a drug dealer, and now he is a strong pastor for the Lord. Prayer changes things and faith does the most!!!!!!!! I pray God will shed light on your brother and will keep him alive, in Jesus name AMEN!....
2006-10-04 14:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Señorita Bonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously have got a problem there. I think that you should try and ask him what's wrong - there has to be a reason why he's on drugs. He can't just be on drugs for fun.
I am so terribly sorry, but I have never encountered such problems before, so I seriously do not know what to say. i hope you find help for your half brother soon.
The answerer before me has a really good answer. you should totally trust in God and let him do the rest. Start going to a church and ask the pastors there to help you pray for him, but you must also pray too. You must trust in God 110%. Good luck.
2006-10-04 14:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by LAVELLE! :] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that has to be hard standing by watching a person you love kill the insides of himself. He has to know he has a problem,, He has to want to stop. You can send him to every drug center their is but that is his will to stop.
You can pray for him, everyday praying that he will be delivered from that stronghold of drugs. Even pray as a family prayer does and can change a person life more than words or drug treatments.
Just continue to love him and support him threw the bad and the good,
2006-10-04 14:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is 19- I don't think they can sign him into rehab without his consent, unless he does something really off the wall.
Since he lives at home- your parents should go and get support on how to practice "tough love" (ways to get through to him that are best for him, while still showing love and support). Sometimes, if that doesn't work- tough love does a kick to the curb that will.
2006-10-04 14:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how this feel, my uncle is the same way. We try to help hm, but he deny's the help. What I would is get some proper help for him, and explain to him that you only want the best for him, and that you want to help him. Its worth it, becuase he will be drug free and be more mature. And be the real good person he is. :-)
2006-10-04 14:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't get him to stop until he realizes he has a problem. You could try an intervention but that could backfire.
2006-10-04 14:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything that you can do until he is ready to admit that he has a problem. Just be there for him if and when he is ready for help.
2006-10-04 14:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋