My brother had a son 11 years ago. He committed a crime when he was 21 and gave over temporary guardianship to my parents. (My nephew's mom gave up her rights) When he got out of prison he tried to get his son back but my parents fought him on this. It went to court and since my parents have more money they were able to pay for experts and they got legal custody and my brother lost all rights. I stayed out of it. I didn't testifiy on either's behalf. The court battle lasted 2 years. When my brother lost, he gave up hope and was really angry at my parents and lost contact with his son. In the meantime my brother legally changed his last name to his biological mother's maiden name because he had a baby and doesn't want the new baby to have our parents' last name. I have tried to stay out of the middle but I did tell my dad that my brother changed his name. My dad told me that they adopted my nephew. My brother doesn't know this! Should I tell him? My dad said I shouldn't!
2006-10-04 14:37:13 · 9 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nah, what's done is done, don't stress brother out any more, there is nothing he can do about it except suicide or murder , you don't want that on your back do you? there isn't many things worse for a man than to be in a position where he can't do anything about bad news.
2006-10-04 14:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lost his rights to the kid in a court battle against your parents, I imagine he would know that your parents are raising him, so I'm a bit confused as to what it is he wouldn't know.
My advice? Don't bring up the topic, but if your brother asks about the kid, tell him the truth.
2006-10-04 21:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say anything. It's obvious that he doesn't care about his son so why does he even deserve to know what is going on? He could still be a part of his son's life but he chose not to be. You have stayed out of it this long just continue to stay out of it.
2006-10-04 21:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think staying out of it is the best thing for everyone. I realize you want your family to get along, but also your nephew needs what is best for him and it seems like causing chaos would not help. Maybe if you got a family psychologist to talk to all of them it could help. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-04 21:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't tell him - he was the one who lost contact with his son (and parents) and if he was really concerned enough to know he would already.
Also since you managed to stay out of it in the past there doesn't seem to be any reason for you to jeopardize your relationship with your parents.
2006-10-04 21:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your brother really cared about his child he wouldnt have lost contact just because your parents have gaurdianship of him, i think your father is right!! you shouldn't tell him, you should stay out of it... if he really had the right to know, he wouldn't have dropped his son like a bad habit!!! Sorry but it's true!! Let sleeping dogs sleep. it really isn't any of your buisness!! Stay out of it!! Good luck!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-04 21:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of it and not say anything. Don't learn to keep you mouth shut that hard way like I did.
2006-10-04 21:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by lovedietdp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't say anything about that but you should suggest that your family seek counseling
2006-10-04 21:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by msgal79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s not up to you to say a word about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-04 21:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋