I have this friend(read previous question)anyways she sent me a christmas list and circled the stuff she wants me to get her now i moved from ny to fl 2 months ago living with my bf and i have no job she wants either a guess watch for $190 or a down comforter from fortuneoff i dont care what u tell me to tell her i'm just fed up and she can't get it through her thick skull jeez arghhhhhhhhhh sorry but i'm really pissed its only october why she sending me this list so early thx for answering :)
2006-10-04 14:24:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe she thinks you're going to sell blood or p'nani just to live out YOUR life-long fantasy of being able to buy her something like that? I'd have to tell her straight::"Look, B%&$H ! I ain't got no job, I ain't gots no money, I ain't gots a pot to piss in or a window to thow it out!!! Don't you GET IT?!?!?! My freakin world don't revolve around YOU! Right now, I gots to get up, get out, and get somethin!!"" Sound retarded, but she got balls of steel, yo.
2006-10-04 14:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Angela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is a "taker" and doesn't give a hoot about you,,,only of what you can provide for her. My sister had a pal like that ....no longer of course...and it still bugs her the way this person expected to be provided with gifts...and from everyone. She even had the nerve to talk about someone behind their back if she didn't get what she wanted! She has no boundaries. Just send her a note and tell her ...sorry, the budget is too tight and not to expect anything from you for a long time as you have rent, utilities, and whatnot and are self supporting and anything extra will be spent on YOURSELF. She should understand that very well. If she continues in this vein let her know that you think she thinks you are only as good as what you can provide for her...and that is not a friendship. You are not the local welfare office. After a year passes...don't get in the habit of giving her anything ever again. She'll probably end the friendship and find someone else to work on. Good riddance.to " Miss Money Trumps."
2006-10-04 22:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well October is not to early to think about Christmas, how ever find a magazine with the two items in it cut the picture out send both to her tell her that was the best you could do. Remember it's the thought that counts. If that is not good enough tell her to buy it her self when ever she saves enough money. Hey that was rude of her to ask for expensive things so whats wrong with you being a little rude?
2006-10-04 21:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by SANCY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you no longer live near her the easiest way would be jut to IGNORE her. If she sends you postal mail then mark it return to sender and put it in the mail ..it will be sent back to her. If she is e-mailing you just delete her e-mails and ignore her...she will eventually get the message. She sounds like a "user". There a lots of those kinds of people around...we don't need them as "friends". If you want to be aggressive you could send her a note or e-mail and tell her that you feel her demands are inappropriate and you would appreciate it if she would leave you alone. Some people just don't get it and you have to be DIRECT ..even if it kills you to do that...they won't even flinch..they are so totally insensitive..
Good luck!
2006-10-04 21:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding! The obvious question...why is she sending you a list at all? Santa's the only one who gets lists for Christmas. Last time I looked, he wasn't living in FL. I agree with the first answer. Ignore her.
2006-10-04 22:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by GSDoxie3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to this friend that your financial status is not that great right now and it is going to take awhile for it to build up. Tell this friend in a nice way that you are sorry but you have moved on with your life and you would appreciate it if you can go on with your life without interruptions.
2006-10-04 21:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by onecalmbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you can't afford a gift for her. She doesn't need to purchase one for you. That you don't know when you'll be able to speak with her again wish her the best and move on. If she calls, ignore her. She will get the message.
2006-10-04 22:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by curious51867 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ignore the list and don't respond to any of her attempts to contact you. She will eventually get the message.
2006-10-04 21:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a Christmas list back stating that you are only asking for one present this year.....and it will not cost a thing, unlike the gifts she is 'hinting' at you buying...... for her to leave you alone..... hopefully she will get the message...
2006-10-04 21:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is excited or stuck on herself and expects the world to revolve around her. Tell her to stop being so self consumed.
2006-10-04 21:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by hodgesandguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋