I just had a little girl and things are going great with my two year old. But I am affraid once this new baby to her starts getting old, if she will feel neglected or unloved? I want to know what I should do??? HELP!!!
2006-10-04 14:17:06 · 17 answers · asked by ~Ava~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL PLEAE READ:
i have a son and daughter. when my son was 6-7 months old i got pregnant and had her when he was 1. this is what i did and my kids both love each other very much. i let my sonhelp with little thing like bring a diaper or something. get your 2 year old involed and it caqn be like a game. that way the 2 year old is still getting attention by HELPING YOU pay attention to the newbaby. my kids do fight my son is now 3 ad my daughyter will soon be 2 but my daughter loves her "bubba" and looks up to heiom and he scream ss and tels on her if she does somethinhg bad so she wont get hurt good luck
2006-10-04 14:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by michele,deanna w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 girls ages 2 and 4. My oldest was so happy that she got a little sister. There were times of jealousy and she wanted to be held sometimes like her sister. But she never got "old" to her. They hate to be apart from each other. What I recommend to you is that when your baby is napping and the older child is up, spend some quality time together. Read a book, play your child's favorite game, something fun to your toddler. No distractions. No phone, no cleaning, just time with you guys. This will show her that you still have time for her. Do this at least once daily for an hour and all should be well. Good luck to you!!
2006-10-04 15:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by sadaunt78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more involved you let her be the less resentment there will be. Let her take on some small tasks that she can do alone and reward her for them. Then get her to help with some of the bigger tasks; even let her hold the baby if she's sitting by you on the couch. Then when the baby has a nap spend some real quality time with her. The housework, laundry and dishes can wait. You'll teach her about balance and that she's loved and she'll learn how to share both you and living space with her little sister. Good luck.
2006-10-04 14:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worried about the same thing then but here's what you can do.
Buy a baby doll and give the baby doll its special blanket and diaper.
Have your child "help" by dressing the baby doll while you are dressing the new one.
Show that your 2 yr old can interact like shaking a rattle or waving hello pretending to play peek-a-boo with the new one.
This way no one is left out or bored.
Additional thought: have a special mommy and me time for your two year old and when old enough the new one.
Congratulations and suprises hugs and kisses always works.
2006-10-04 14:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have started talking about this with your 2 year old a while ago, so the 2 year old could get ready for the change. Make sure if you tell your 2 year old that they can help with the baby, you follow through with it because they will resent you if you don't Sometimes, this does cause jealousy amongst children, but they will get over it as long as you treat them equal and you share your time with both of your children. Good luck.
2006-10-04 14:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three children so I understand your fear. I promise you that you have nothing to worry about. When our first child is born we wonder if we could ever love another baby as much as we love this one. Then the second baby comes along and you do. You are filled with love now for these two children. Your motherly instinct kicks in and you will automatically share your time and love to both of them. None of my children ever seemed affected by the new addition to the family. I, like you,worried about the same thing. Everything will just fall in to place as the weeks and months go by. As moms we are very multi tasked, the task of loving and showing attention to your oldest will just come natural. Continue involving her in all the fun of the new baby. When the baby is sleeping, allow that to be her and mommy time! Congratulations on your new addition a good luck! You will do fine!
2006-10-04 15:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give both the two year old and the baby the same amount of love. Dont worry play with them both and when the baby soils its diaper take the 2 year old with you too change it. Once the baby starts walking make those 2 kiss and hug a lot and take pictures trust me on this.
2006-10-04 14:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're concerned I could name your Dr simply to allow them to realize what's going on however it's average. I bleed for the whole 6 weeks after I had a c-segment the final week and part it was once very gentle and might no longer rather inform that a lot however it lasted for six weeks and it's been three months now and I have no longer had a interval considering that.
2016-08-29 07:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let ur oldest child play a big part in helping with the baby.I have a 4yr old and a 10 month old and my 4yr old is a big helper and he definitely isn't feeling neglected/unloved he lets it be known that his brother is his baby.
2006-10-05 06:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by Queen D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry. My kids are two years apart and neither of them has ever felt neglected or unloved. Sure, there were times when I didn't give my immediate attention to my daughter (oldest) because I needed to help my son, but she really helped when he became sick or fell and hurt himself.
2006-10-04 15:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by mcgrawm7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋