I have known her for a few years and were close friends, best friends. Last October we met in person for the first time. She told me she loved me, but didn't find me attractive cause I am overweight. I am 30 and she is 22. Anyway, the next day she slept with me, it was great sex. For the next 2 weeks we had great sex. She loved me with all her heart she would tell me. 2 months later We got engaged, and I sold my home, and moved closer to her which is about 15 hours from where I lived. Over the last 7 months, she rarely would be intimate or french kiss. Although she will always hug and kiss me (fast kisses on the lips). She tells me all the time that she wants to be with me the rest of her life. I approached her on the not wanting sex ordeal and when she does have sex, she is not into it at all. She told me that there is an attraction problem, but for me to try and work on losing weight and see if that helps. What should I do?
2006-10-04 14:14:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not sure,,, but in my opinion, doesn't sound like she is really in love with you,,,,,,,If you love some one looks, should be the last thing you would think about. That is my opinion,, as we were raised.
2006-10-04 14:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by avery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best advice from me hun. Number one you cannot marry if you are not attracted to the other person. I am married and very fortunate to have the man that I have and I have learned that not only is it looks that makes a relationship but you also have to be that persons protector and best friend and lover. Im just letting you know right now that if she says she is unattracted to you its not worth it. You sound like too much of a nice guy to have to go through this kind of agony over a women, and i say this with experience, who is just taking advantage of to get what she wants because she knows that youll do and give her whatever she wants. There are better fish in the sea adn you should keep your eyes open for new experiences.
2006-10-04 14:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweetangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you this my wife is 15years younger than I am when i first saw her i was blown away at how hot she was and still is my wife is in her 20s when i went to talk to her i was scared shiitless needless to say it took me almost 2years to get her marry me and i Have been married a year I told you all that to tell you this some women in there early 20s are still trying to figure things out if you love this girl prove yourself make an effort to improve yourself loose weight get a hair cut ,brush and floss do what it takes and if this is meant to be it will fly my wife has made me a very happy man in all respects
2006-10-04 14:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by soldierof the 82ndAirborne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u care for her u will try ur hardest to work on loosing the weight! the sex will be better 2. although true love: she'd love u no matter what. she still is young tho so she is possiably immature and thats why she doesnt view u attractivly
2006-10-04 14:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to lose 130 pounds (or whatever it is that your fiancee weighs).
It will be difficult to break it off, but you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness if you stay in this relationship...
2006-10-04 14:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say that you can do better because if she really loved you than it wouldn't matter what you looked like because she would be able to see what is inside you is far much better than your outside apperance and would be able to looke pass that and move on with the relationship.
2006-10-04 14:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by ghain39 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is just not that into you. she should not be telling you that she doesnt find you attractive. the mind sees what the heart feels..therefore she ought to find you attractive if she really likes you at all. leave this girl alone and find a girl who really loves you,a nice girl.
2006-10-04 14:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by california gurlie poo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what you should do- lose a lot of weight fatty and then find a super hot sexy GUY!
2006-10-04 14:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by OLIVIA! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT SHE IS JUST BEING HONEST. IF IT JUST YOUR WIEGHT AND YOU DO LOVE HER, DO YOUR BEST TO LOOSE SOME WEIGHT. SHE OBVIOUSLY SEES PAST IT FOR THE IMPORTANT THINGS, BUT SEX AND INTIMACY IS IMPORTANT TOO.
IM STRUGGLING TO LOOSE WEIGHT TOO. ITS A BATTLE BUT I DO IT BECAUSE I WANT MY BOYFRIEND TO STAY INTRESTED IN ME AND NOT LOOK SOMWHERE ELSE.
2006-10-04 14:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by imboard2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid romantic love and attraction go together.
2006-10-04 14:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Disharmony 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋